Sunshine

Strong willed. Big hearted. Texan. Republican.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

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[Wisdom Stoics @WisdomStoics]

How to become a disciplined person:

1.

[Ricky Gervais @rickygervais]

Done.
I fucking hate wrapping presents. Cunts.

[𝙋𝙖𝙢𝙢𝙮 ✨️ @_Pammy_DS_]

Life humbles you. The more you mature, the more you want a quiet, peaceful life and the less you tolerate being around drama, disrespect, and conflict. You just want a calm, cosy home, good food on your table, and to be surrounded by your favourite people.

[Nyle Beck @IAmMyBestToday]

Healing our inner relationship often improves our relationships with others, as unexamined habits can recreate the same dynamics. But not all relationships reflect you, and healing doesn’t fix others. For some relationships we just need distance & boundaries, not more self-work…

[邸珥菲 @SAIBdelvi]

I'm not lying when I said women's pleasure is more psychological than physical.

[Inner Practitioner @MindTendencies2]

When you stop blaming others and start healing the relationship with yourself, everything else changes, because it's you vs. you, and the only toxic relationship you have is with yourself; your relationships with others are merely a reflection of your relationship with yourself.

[Brutal Mindset @BrutalMindset]

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[Brutal Mindset @BrutalMindset]

5.

[positivity moon @arrtnem]

Buying flowers is easy.

You can do it in five minutes. You can order them from your phone while you are in the bathroom. You can toss a bouquet on the counter like a receipt and say “thought of you” and technically, yes, you did the thing. Most men treat it like that. A task. A fix. A way to patch the mood they accidentally tore.

But that is not what women mean when they talk about flowers.

They are not talking about petals. They are talking about presence.

The hard part is not the purchase. The hard part is having her living in the background of your mind when she is not in front of you. Not in a controlling way. In a warm way. Like she has a tiny key to a part of your attention. Like her comfort is not a reminder you set, it is a reflex you built.

That is why “you never buy me flowers” almost never means “I need flowers.”

It means “I do not feel held in your attention.”

It means “I feel like I only exist when I am directly in your face.”

Because the moment a woman has to ask for flowers, the whole magic collapses into accounting. It turns into a negotiation. It becomes “what is the minimum effort required so you stop being upset.” It becomes evidence that the thought was not organic. It had to be extracted.

You can feel the difference in your body between a surprise and a compliance.

A surprise says: I was alone somewhere, doing normal life, and you were still in me. A surprise says: I noticed something small and it bent toward you. A surprise says: you are not just my girlfriend when we are together. You are a person I carry when we are apart.

That is the real gift.

Because love is not just what you do when the other person is watching. Love is what your brain does when they are not.

It is the way you keep a mental shelf of their small joys. Not the big ones. Not birthday and anniversary. Those are easy because they are on a calendar. Everyone can remember the big ones. A stranger can remember the big ones. The big ones do not require intimacy. They require reminders.

Small joys are different. Small joys mean you listened.

She mentioned offhand that she loves yellow tulips. She showed you a mug once and said it was cute. She said her mom used to bring home lilies and the smell makes her feel safe. She likes that one snack but never buys it because it feels indulgent. She gets cold on her feet, always, even in summer. She loves when the bed sheets smell like clean laundry. She hates walking into a dark apartment. She likes the stupid little candle that makes the kitchen smell like vanilla.

Keeping track of that is not “being trained.”

It is devotion.

And devotion is not loud. It is not poems and grand gestures and words that look good on Instagram. It is a brain that has space for another person’s comfort without needing to be begged.

This is why “look it’s us” hits so hard.

Because it is not about the meme itself. Half the time the meme is stupid. The point is the reflex behind it. The code it carries. You are telling her: you are so woven into me that random life is constantly pointing back to you. A billboard. A dog. A dumb tweet. A couple walking with matching hats. A song in a grocery store. A line in a movie. And your brain does not just notice it. Your brain reaches for her. It wants to share the moment with her, even if the moment is nothing.

That is cherishing.

And people underestimate how rare it feels to be cherished in adulthood. Everyone is busy. Everyone is tired. Everyone is managing a million tabs. Most relationships slowly turn into logistics. Who is picking up groceries. What are we eating. Did you pay the bill. You start to feel like a roommate with benefits. You start to feel like your existence is a shared spreadsheet.

So when someone sends “look it’s us,” it is like a little flare in the dark.

It says: I still see you as a person, not a task.

That is why women get so hurt when men scoff at flowers, or at those little “this made me think of you” gestures.

[Inner Practitioner @MindTendencies2]

Your coworkers aren't your friends. Stop seeking their attention and approval. Stop pleasing them. Stop sharing your blessings and plans. Oversharing is how you leak energy. Do your job, fulfill your responsibilities. Get your check. Build your life elsewhere. Protect your peace.