SAIEL💊the ANTIHERO

MecSaiel Dauhn Solehman 🏳️‍🌈🇯🇲 USMC; Artist. Builder. Thinker. Composer. 🌹watch my new series &friends.🌹

[Silver NOViral @SilverRolling]

@saielism this is a great listen, real dope shit 🌹

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[SAIEL💊the ANTIHERO @saielism]

The more I grow, the less I want to speak on things fr.

there is nothing that can be known fr. Everything is faith and intuition. Even that statement is ????

[SAIEL💊the ANTIHERO @saielism]

There are so many instances where I have to set intellectual boundaries with myself or else I’ll go crazy. anything has the potential to fall apart.

[I appreciate you. @DeeLaSheeArt]

Contrary to online beliefs, anger is a valid feeling. Being upset, annoyed, irritated, confused, disappointed, disgusted are valid feelings. Pretending like these feelings are “bad” is not “emotional maturity”.

[SAIEL💊the ANTIHERO @saielism]

There’s levels to the shit. Varying degrees in which a thing manifests. Attachable and detachable components.

[SAIEL💊the ANTIHERO @saielism]

We gotta have more compassion for each other’s humanity and stop calling everything “toxic” or “abuse” or “narcissism” lmao

[SAIEL💊the ANTIHERO @saielism]

I used to think polyamory was this higher level concept, a symbol of emotional maturity & all that hippie bullshit. Then I realized it’s nothing to w/ polyamory but everything to do w/ having a healthy mentality towards relationships in general, regardless of lifestyle preference

[SAIEL💊the ANTIHERO @saielism]

It’s not about “healthy monogamy” it’s just healthy—all of it . Because these same toxic traits (like, preventing certain connections) can be found in a person who’s poly as well. I feel we put too much meat into our definitions of polyamory and monogamy. I think it’s simple.

[SAIEL💊the ANTIHERO @saielism]

My main issue is that most people try to associate certain characteristics to polyamory that are actually simply, just characteristics of a healthy mentality towards dealing with the complexity of the human experience. Monogamous people can also have those characteristics.

[SAIEL💊the ANTIHERO @saielism]

It’s possible to feel jealousy and NOT try to control your partner.

[Leanne Yau @polyphiliablog]

I do think that healthy monogamy is possible if a person genuinely wants to have one love only, rather than because they want their partner to forsake all others for them to feel secure, and gives their partner the freedom to explore deep, meaningful, platonic love without fear.

[SAIEL💊the ANTIHERO @saielism]

What’s the issue in choosing to be with one person despite having feelings for multiple people? None. It’s a preference.

[SAIEL💊the ANTIHERO @saielism]

I don’t know why y’all feel like you have to lie about or cover up having feelings for someone else. Some things don’t need to be said, sure. But if you’re choosing to stay with the person you’re with because you’re monogamous. That’s perfectly fine.

Y’all do too much.

[SAIEL💊the ANTIHERO @saielism]

One thing I will say is that when I was poly, it helped me define conditions clearly and understand just how many things are assumed in monogamous relationships that probably should be defined as well.

[SAIEL💊the ANTIHERO @saielism]

It’s literally the same thing. Micro-cheating is a result of breaking certain , usually unspoken, rules, boundaries etc. the actual difference is, in monogamy we don’t have to discuss certain things before hand, we just assume. It boils down to each person’s mentality

[Leanne Yau @polyphiliablog]

Infidelity is defined differently in polyamory - it’s about crossing boundaries and breaking agreements, which are individual to the relationship. In monogamy, infidelity is defined more vaguely, and there are degrees to it, to the point where terms like “micro-cheating” exist.

[SAIEL💊the ANTIHERO @saielism]

Do we agree on what we consider cheating? I personally consider you a poopoo head if we have conversations about what’s not okay, and then you go ahead and still do it. Doo. Doo. Head.

[SAIEL💊the ANTIHERO @saielism]

This take is honestly tired. move on.

Or don’t. lmao you have the choice. The world is free. Think and feel what you want 😂

[SAIEL💊the ANTIHERO @saielism]

Tbh, I really feel like y’all do too much. lmao this is why I have to tell people I treat my monogamous relationships with a polyamorous mindset. Being able to trust you is all that matters. Y’all act like shit like this don’t happen in Poly relationships and it does.

[Leanne Yau @polyphiliablog]

With monogamy comes the threat of infidelity, and monogamous people do everything they can to prevent this from happening. Sometimes this is done in extreme and controlling ways, but there are also subtler methods of policing behaviour to limit connection with others.

[SAIEL💊the ANTIHERO @saielism]

It’s like polys are determined to vilify monogamy bc of whatever imagined threat to the legitimacy of their lifestyle that y’all feel a compulsion to produce these generalized, thus inaccurate judgements based on a handful of experiences. It’s giving intellectually irresponsible.