People hear "high standards" and think money. Nope. I'm watching how you treat the waiter, the janitor, your grandparents, and people with no status. Character is the standard.
Y'all are terrified of initiating conversation after conflict. I'm not your mother. I'm not whatever ex that used to blow up on you. I'm an adult that wants to hear you, be heard, and heal what's happened between us. Silence is not a resolution.