Dear anxiously attached ❤️🩹,
I know you are tired, tired of the constant overthinking, the fear that sits in your chest every time they pull away or take too long to reply, tired of needing reassurance and then feeling ashamed for needing it, tired of loving so deeply and yet feeling like it is never enough..
But here is the part that is hard to hear, your partner cannot be your only source of safety, they cannot soothe every fear or fill every void, that is too much for one person to carry, you have to learn to be your own anchor, to soothe yourself, to sit with the discomfort of uncertainty, to remind yourself that their silence is not always rejection, that their distance is not always abandonment, that you are safe even when they are not there
You will get there, not overnight, not without setbacks, but slowly, with practice, with self compassion, you will learn to trust, to rest, to receive love without waiting for it to disappear, and one day, you will realize that you are not as anxious as you used to be, that you have found a little more peace, that you have started to believe that you are safe, and that you are enough, not because someone told you, but because you finally believe it yourself.