There’s a line from a movie that’s been on my mind “We’re in a conflict, we don’t hātē each other. Let’s not say things we can’t come back from”. This is a reminder of the importance of being with/being someone who is respectful & kind during fights. May we know them & be them.
do not choose chemistry over character. because chemistry won't wake up at 3am to console you in your heaviest grief. sparks stop flying when life becomes riddled with reality
Jobs are stressful. So is unemployment. Not finding a partner is stressful. So is having one. Working in an office is stressful. So is working with your hands. Having 50 clients is stressful. So is having none. Life is full of trade-offs. Don’t romanticise options you don’t know.
After you get married, you’re going to meet ‘better’ people than your spouse. You’re going to meet more good-looking people; kinder and more romantic people; more intelligent and funny people. You will meet people who have in abundance what your partner lacks. The mushy and romanticized idea that your partner will be everything to you, and will satisfy all your needs and wants is idolatry. Contentment in marriage is a virtue not often spoken about.
You must wake up every day appreciating everything your partner is to you, everything they have, their beauty and the things that made you marry them because if you focus on everything they don’t do well, you’ll always meet better people. Protect your heart! See their best part, and always remember that your commitment to marry is more of a duty than it is of mushy feelings. You have to stay committed even on the days you feel your spouse is no longer the best fit for you…
-Buchi
I wanna marry into a family that feels like a family. Sunday dinners, birthdays, holidays, random movie nights. I don’t want it to just be “us,” I want a whole village that feels like home