The deepest proof of care is when a person lets you disturb their patterns, that’s when you’ll know they’re invested in you. See, ppl confuse effort with investment. Effort is flowers, dinners, late night calls. Cute, yes. But effort doesn’t always cost someone anything real.
i saw a quote that said “you can be the whole package and still end up at the wrong address. when this happens, the receiver will mishandle you because 1, they don’t know what to do with you and 2, they weren’t meant to have you in the first place” and whew!!
The gym teaches you consistency, patience, effort. It’s powerful. The gym will save your body, but it won’t hold your inner child. It’ll help you regulate your nervous system, but it won’t teach your heart to trust again.
my mom once told me “SPOILING DONT ALWAYS INCLUDE MONEY! it includes time, attention, cooked meals, being there emotionally, physically and mentally! money comes and goes but how you make me feel is forever!” and i felt that.
someone said “nothing gives you a clearer look into someone than how they misinterpret things, every misinterpretation is a confession” and it’s so true because how people misunderstand things can reveal a lot about their perspectives and feelings.
i saw quote which says “if cutting me off make you feel like you’re life will be better, then by any means necessary do it.…just don’t try to come back when you realize i was never the problem” felt that.
when you finally realize that someone’s behavior has more to do with their internal struggle than it ever did with you, you learn grace. you also naturally learn detachment as well.