When you’re grieving, the key bit of advice is to fully feel your feelings. Don’t try to move on prematurely. Just feel all of it.
… but not when you’re at work. Or in front of the kids. Or in public.
Feel them at home, between 9pm and midnight. In your room. Alone.
Every time I open up a dating app, I have to stop and remind myself that what I really want is a cuddle.
Dating apps are TERRIBLE at cuddles.
They may tee up a future cuddle (after A LOT of time/effort). But by then the urge to cuddle has long gone and PLS NOONE TOUCH ME ew.
It feels infinitely better to focus on building your new life than on deconstructing the old one. Particularly in the messy space where they overlap so much, that the venn is just a circle.
But some days your only job is deconstruction; no matter how much you want the future.
Please share far and wide. My friends sister is currently missing, last seen in Te Atatū.
They want her home safe as soon as possible. Please call police if you have seen or do see her or know anything about her whereabouts.
Thoughts to her whānau at this stressful time.
Follow up comment. I briefly opened my bumble filter for men out of sheer curiosity and the likes were quite literally torrential.
Barely any matches with women. Le sigh.