I don’t know who needs to hear this, but you cannot reconcile with anyone who refuses to acknowledge how they mishandled you. Time passing is not an apology. If they never named the harm, they are not offering a future. They are asking you to forget so they can feel clean again.
11 year Relationship and your partner “forgets “ his in a relationship with you and puts his penis some where else and I’m in the wrong for wanting to know the truth from him … how dare I ask 🤦♀️