I fell in love with this quote:
No matter how old you are, you will always regret not having started sooner.
But today is the youngest day you have left.
So start today.
i once had a roommate who turns the house into a reflection of how he feels like when he’s low, depressed or out of cash, everything practically shows it; plates will be left to rot, clothes scattered, stale air sitting in closed room
& whether it’s your mess or not doesn’t matter… if you live in it, it owns you and affects your productivity.
my brain couldn’t separate his chaos from my life. it just reacts. my energy drops, my focus weakens and my standards quietly fall to match the environment and that’s the part people don’t like to admit. an untidy space is not harmless, it’s a slow drain on your discipline. it makes procrastination feel normal, makes effort feel heavier, makes you tolerate versions of yourself you wouldn’t accept in a clean and controlled space. you don’t rise above your environment, you sink into it.
so i stopped waiting for motivation or fairness. i clean, not cos i feel good but because i refuse to let disorder dictate my output. the truth is simple, if you can’t control your space, don’t expect to control your life.
i may also be depressed but i always clean my room, buena suerte 👍
I pernah baca yang manusia memang kena kerja sebab kerja tu provide purpose dan tujuan dalam hidup.
Kalau terlalu lama tak kerja, manusia akan cari & buat kerja sendiri, just to fill the void.
And the irony is, having jobs and being busy, make us more appreciative toward mundane and small things.
period in your life where you start to realize what it is all about and how the game is structured. if you are one of the lucky ones, you realize that life is not a linear battle but a full-on open front where you will have to take care of multiple things at once
Michael B. Jordan’s advice for anyone feeling stuck in life
“When you’re feeling the most trapped and down and nothing can go right, those are the moments that define you. People quit right before they get what they’ve always wanted”
“Having the name Michael Jordan, knowing there was another Michael Jordan who was the best ever got me teased and picked on. For a moment, it made me not want to play sports but then I was like nah, I’m going to compete. It gave me a healthy chip”
“For the people who are listening who feel like they can’t change their circumstances, just hold on. Just endure. Look at things differently. Challenge yourself to see the glass half full”
“Find something that resonates with you, find your intuition within that thing and be obsessed about it”
You can wake up one day and decide you're done being the person who kept sabotaging your own life. no big breakthrough. no perfect moment. just a decision to become someone who wins. a decision that you’re done being the version of yourself that kept losing. done being the version who kept looking for the perfect time. you just start. you show up even when nothing is working and quitting would be the most logical thing to do. you just kept showing up.
You suffer because you try too hard to control. You cling to people, outcomes, ideas about yourself. You take it all so seriously and it makes you anxious and stressed. Release and let go. Live life the way you would hold sand. Not with a closed fist, but an open palm.
As a man, you will miss a lot of opportunity if you are shy. The job goes to the guy who spoke up. The girl goes home with the guy who approached. The deal closes for the man who asked. Shyness feels safe but it is one of the most expensive habits you can have. Every door that never opened, every connection that never happened, every version of your life that stayed out of reach — most of it traces back to moments you stayed quiet when you should have moved. Cure the shyness. Everything else gets easier.
Your calendar was full at 21 and empty at 26 for a reason MIT discovered in 1950.
Researchers studied a housing complex called Westgate and found friendship was predicted by one variable above everything else: physical distance between front doors. Students living near stairwells and mailboxes made the most friends. Shared interests, values, personality? All downstream of foot traffic. They named it the propinquity effect.
Researcher Rebecca Adams later distilled friendship formation into three conditions: proximity, repeated unplanned interactions, and settings where people let their guard down. A college campus delivers all three automatically, dozens of hours a week of engineered collisions. Adult life delivers zero by default.
That's the entire mechanism behind days blending together. Your brain registers novelty from unplanned human contact. Remove the collisions and time loses its texture.
The fix is repetition. One dinner party changes nothing. The same gym class, same coffee shop, same pickup game at the same time every week rebuilds the structure school gave you for free. Friendship grows from accumulated accidental contact, so frequency wins.
College handed you a collision machine. Adults who stay social just rebuilt one.
Gen Z realizing one of the biggest shocks after college is that life no longer happens around you.
In school, friends, events, relationships, and opportunities are built into your environment.
As an adult, if you don't actively create a social life, weeks can turn into months surprisingly fast.
This is free advice from an expensive psychologist. If you’re an anxious person, do everything for fun. Go to a job interview for fun. Submit documents for fun. Start a blog for fun. Anxiety feeds on importance. Don’t make everything a matter of life and death.