“I despise the kind of book which tells you how to live, how to make yourself happy. Philosophers have no good news for you at this level. I believe the first duty of philosophy is making you understand what deep shit you are in!”
— Slavoj Žižek
“We're all going to die, all of us, what a circus! That alone should make us love each other but it doesn't. We are terrorized and flattened by trivialities, we are eaten up by nothing.”
— Charles Bukowski
Ben Affleck opens up to Howard Stern about sobriety in a way that feels genuinely honest.
He says early recovery is a “10 out of 10” in difficulty because addiction often isn’t really about the substance, it’s a habitual response to pain. He points out this shows up for people through gambling, relationships, or even social media just as easily.
For about 18 months, he tried pure willpower. His own words capture why that doesn’t work: you can win a thousand times, but you only need to lose once.
The real turning point came through pain, specifically realizing the impact his addiction had on his relationship with his kids. That’s when he says he truly hit “done.”
Since then, he says the urge itself has been gone. Not white knuckling it, genuine peace, with the obsession fully lifted.
A rare amount of honesty about what recovery actually looks like
“I think of the 8 to 5 as one of the greatest atrocities sprung upon mankind. You give your life away to a function that doesn’t interest you.”
— Charles Bukowski
Charles Barkley: "I think we need to all pray for Wemby."
Kenny Smith: "Why?"
Barkley: "Because he can't play too many minutes, they are gonna kill him out there."
Smith: "You're joking."
Barkley: "I'm damn sure joking 'cause you guys -- these people, they are pissing me off. I'm watching the whole games.
They (OKC) ain't playing dirty, and I'm like: 'These are some of the softest fouls I've ever seen in my life'
You got these clowns on TV talking about: "They are gonna hurt poor Wemby."
I was like: 'Hurt him? Are you really kidding, man?'
It drives me crazy watching these shows".