My man said something to me that really stuck.
He told me, “I’m not here to control you. I’m not your dad, I’m your partner. You’re free to make your own choices. Just understand that every choice has consequences. If you choose something that damages what we’ve built, that’s on you.”
He said, “I’ll always tell you when something hurts me or crosses a boundary, because that’s what healthy communication looks like. But if you keep stepping over the line after I’ve shown you where it is, then you were never really protecting us to begin with.”
And honestly, that’s what accountability in a relationship sounds like.
Hardest thing for me to grasp as an adult is you have to keep showing up no matter how you feel. You gotta do this shit sad, do it heartbroken, do it grieving, do it tired. Life doesn’t care, it waits for nobody, you just have to keep going
Play these in any order and I running bare back around d party singing!
Teja - Runaway
Nadia - Everytime
Farmer - How ah livin
Kerwin - Energy Killer
Kes - Tack Back
Preedy - Search Party
Olatunji - Inventor
Seeing supposedly grown folks using the argument of “he/she cheated first” is so petty because that energy is almost never kept when someone does something “good” first.