We under-estimate how toxic relationships cause disease in the body.
Boundaries matter.
No relationship is worth a consistent sacrifice of your emotional and mental wellbeing.
Removing yourself is an act of self respect.
Waking up means facing reality. It might mean ending relationships. It might mean leaving a job or moving to a new place. All of this is scary and uncertain. This is why so many people live their entire lives in autopilot— even when they’re miserable.
It isn’t your job to fix them. It isn’t your job to teach them how to let love in. It’s time for you to find someone you don’t need to mentor. It’s time for you to find someone who teaches you as much as you teach them.
Mature love says I’ll learn the skills necessary to build secure relationships. I’ll get uncomfortable. I won’t expect a fairy tale. I won’t run when I’m vulnerable or afraid. I won’t let my insecurities hold me back from creating the healthy love I deserve.
Sometimes the most loving thing to do is to let people hit their own rock bottom. Humans are more resilient that we know, and sometimes our version of helping (which is usually well intended) actually keeps people stuck.