Bro please don’t do this. In the land of Israel then, a certain man named Blarkesh the son of Bornetz told Samson what Delilah was planning. Guess what Samson said, he said and I quote: “WHO DOES SUCH A VILE THING?
WHAT IF SHE NEVER TOLD ME?
WHAT IF THE GIRL WANTED TO TELL ME THE NEXT DAY?
WHAT IF SHE NEVER EVEN WANTED TO TELL ME.
WHO ARE YOU TO TAKE AWAY HER LIBERTY TO TELL ME IF YOU NO WAN SPOIL HER LIFE.” So it’s no one’s fault.
……..The more things change, the more they remain the same…
She’s being honest, and I actually respect the honesty. But women have to understand that social media has given men access to conversations they were never supposed to hear.
For most of history, the average man didn’t have access to millions of women openly discussing how they view men, dating, marriage, sex, attention and relationships. Now he does, & information changes behavior.
So when women ask, ‘Why don’t men yearn anymore?’ or ‘What happened to 90s love?’ part of the answer is that you’re asking men with far more information to behave like men who knew far less.
You can’t give men access to conversations their fathers and grandfathers never heard in abundance and expect them to approach women & interact with women the same way.
It turns you into a people pleaser. You avoid conflict because you can’t afford to lose access, help, or opportunities.
It makes you overexplain. You feel the need to justify your existence, choices, or mistakes.
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For me, one of the hardest part about being a man is the helplessness that comes with being broke.
When a man has money, people check on him. They call, they laugh with him, they celebrate him.
But when he’s broke, the silence can be deafening.
He’s expected to figure it out on his own. To be strong. To carry the weight without complaining. To smile when he’s breaking inside.
The hardest part isn’t always the empty wallet.
It’s feeling like you have no one to lean on.
You want to ask for help, but you hesitate because you’re afraid of being seen as weak. You keep your struggles to yourself because you’ve been taught that a man should solve his own problems.
So you suffer quietly.
You watch opportunities slip away. You lose sleep wondering how tomorrow will look. You replay every mistake, hoping you’ll find a way out.
And while everyone sees your silence, very few hear your cry for help.
Being broke can make a man feel invisible. Not because he has lost his worth, but because it can seem as though the world only notices him when he has something to offer.
Still, every morning he gets up, carries his burdens, and keeps trying.
Sometimes the bravest thing a man does isn’t winning.
It’s refusing to give up when he feels like he’s carrying the weight of the world alone.
The unforgiving person is the closest thing to a “good person,” even more so than the forgiving or empathetic person.
A forgiving person is capable of forgiveness because he finds it easy to understand the behavior of those who offend him. This understanding is a function of possessing the capacity to act in a similar manner as those who offend him. He too is capable of hurting someone, and he knows it.
However, a man who is incapable of forgiving people is equally repelled by offending them. He has a rigid but consistent ethical stance: he will not hurt, and he will not forgive when he is hurt.
His lack of agency to be cruel to people mandates his lack of understanding for cruel character and thus makes him unforgiving of it. He will not forgive you for doing unto him what he cannot do to you.
Right there is a good person.
My father had taught me to be nice first, because you can always be mean later, but once you’ve been mean to someone, they won’t believe the nice anymore. So be nice, be nice, until it’s time to stop being nice, then destroy them.
If you grew up in the trenches, you already know this:
The dumber the people around you are, the more aggression you must show to be respected.
The smarter the people around you are, the less aggression you must show to be respected.
This is an unwritten law of human hierarchy.