people are calling her the worst person on earth and acting like she would leave him for dead if there's a situation like that which baffles me. It's a serious issue and she needs to work on it but it's not the end of the world, if they both say their relationship is+
@wonuola_x Nahh, you can accept people and still believe in people's capacity to change while being realistic about it. The changes might not be drastic but if the person acknowledges and puts in effort then it's a disservice to just be dismissive of their efforts.
@wonuola_x That's where we disagree, i believe everything can be worked on to be at least a bit better. Siblings and other people might be be as affected as an intimate romantic partner and that's more motivation to be eager to participate in self improvement.
@wonuola_x Nahh, i don't think so. It's bad behaviour and she needs to work on it but i don't think she can leave you for dead. She is selfish, i agree. But i still don't think she is scum of the earth or something. It can be worked on.
maybe because i have dealt or am friends with people who behave like that (not as intense) & i just learnt to work with them and accept them as they are, i am more tolerant of stuff too & my profession is not one that encourages being judgement at all sha.
I thought that zikoko article would be worse than the actual content bc of the quotes I've been seeing. It's so obvious that's a either trauma response or something based on fear that she has to work through and she acknowledges it. So why are people being so harsh?
great example of how our money archetypes show up in relationships. She's an Accumulator (I don't think she's stingy, she has a "money story" that could do with some unpacking). he's likely a Nurturer or Connector (I like that he's not dismissing his concerns)
It's figureoutable
I've been so confused about what to do, i decided to just build an emergency fund but i still felt weird about not getting into investing but honestly it takes priority, je ki n rora
If all you can do in a year is build an emergency fund, it’s enough and it’s okay.
Not every season of your journey is about wealth creation. It’s better to have a safety net that protects your income and keeps you from taking on expensive debt than to rush into investments without a foundation.
at my big age i really don’t think i can date without intention. one day ill be cool and the next im cutting you off because what i really want is someone who’s all the locked in and ready to settle down. nothing else gone work, idc how much i like you
i want to go back to reading different books, i miss the feeling that comes with it. just need to find books that interest me, that's where i get stuck.
was even more of a bigger sign that it's time to stop and let that path go. Ease is a big part of my life for me to still stick my head there so I'm def listening.
After my last bout of illness, i've decided to never let myself get so stressed bc of finances again, everything always turns out fine so i'm not gonna do too much and put myself through sm stress. The fact that the whole thing i stressed for later failed+