Oluwaseun T.

Be flexible in life, @ManUnited fan.

[UCHECHUKWU 👽 @Yucee04233]

She just summarized life 👏

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

Did you know that when Bowen University was founded, a huge number of muslim students were sponsored by one rich Iwo indigene to buy the University's Entrance Forms, and after they secured their admission, they began to agitate for a mosque on campus and hijab for female students, etc
When they were turned down, they began to hold prayers on the school field in defiance
When the school authority protested, they started a riot.
I have never seen Christians going into muslim schools or companies or institutions and demanding that rules must be changed for them
They knew it was a Baptist University, they knew it was a Christian institution, and yet they did all that.
The Inaugural Vice-Chancellor of Bowen University, Professor J. T. Okedara, had to retire early because of the trouble these students gave him
It took the intervention of the Nigeria Baptist Convention and a change of Vice-Chancellor for these students to be rusticated and for peace to be restored.

I was reading the news about International School, Ibadan, and I can see the same spirit of disruption and troublemaking at work.

I have never seen bandits wearing cassocks, carrying Bibles and shouting Hallelujah as they behead people

It is a paradox that people practising a religion can be fomenting trouble without provocation all over the world and still claim that they are a religion of peace.

Indeed, there is a spirit at work in every human being based on the faith they embrace.

[Yorùbáness @Yorubaness]

Veteran Nollywood actor, Pa Kola Oyewo is d£ad. RIP to the legend 🕊️

[The Spearhead @Spearhead_Af]

Africa Is One Market, But Not for Africans

Africa has been treated as one big market for foreign goods, but Africans have been discouraged from treating Africa as one market for ourselves. The same people who tell us continental trade is too complicated have no problem moving their own products across our borders.

They want access to Africa’s market, but they do not want Africa to trade freely with itself. Because an Africa that trades with itself is an Africa that becomes stronger, more independent, and less dependent on foreign imports.

So when you see foreign products everywhere across the continent, while African products remain trapped inside their own countries, understand what you are looking at. Dependency by design.

[Oluwaseun T. @seun90s]

@sixty9signs @BorellisX @olawaleololade_ @madam_suzie_ You're ignorant, and you don't want to learn.

[Oluwaseun T. @seun90s]

@sixty9signs @olawaleololade_ @madam_suzie_ Your DNA can absolutely 💯 show your ancestry. Open your mind to learn, relearn, and unlearn.

[Eminent @stayEminent]

Never ever have I seen a substitute come on to score a hattrick 😭

[Akin Akinwale @mrlurvy]

One day, we will have to tell ourselves the hard truth.

How often do we talk about the role Atiku has played in weakening the opposition? Time and again, his approach to opposition politics has raised questions, especially choosing to run for presidency again after 8 years of a Northerner

Before then let us be pilling the blame on Peter Obi. An innocent Southerner who just want to run because its the turn of his region.

[Ayo-Elesho @Ayoelesho]

Nigerians switched from using louvres, which provided full ventilation, to sliding windows, which provide only partial ventilation.

Now, everyone is complaining of heat after blocking air from entering their rooms.

Why are we so backward in everything we do?

[Arojinle @arojinle1]

Let me tell you about naked mole rats. This live underground throughout their lives. They eat root, tubers and bulbs underground without leaving their burrow. When they come across a tuber that's big, they don't try to finish it at once.

They practice a form of sustainable harvesting.They bore into the tuber and eat little out of the softer interior flesh. They deliberately leave the thin outer epidermis (skin) mostly intact. This keeps the plant alive and healthy, allowing it to continue growing or regenerate new tissue. They'll dig around their tunnels to look for other roots and do this. In a few days, they'll go back to the big tuber, which would have regenerated to eat a little again. They're smart not to overwork the tuber or kill it. They farm and bill with sense.

Do the same wit your successful elder brother.

[Arojinle @arojinle1]

Frog is kọ̀ǹkọ̀. It's the one that's edible. It has smooth skin, long legs and doesn't have poison gland

Toad is ọ̀pọ̀lọ́. We don't eat it because it has ugly warty skin and it has poison gland. So, it's poisonous. It's legs are also short.

Our Yorùbá forebearers made many statements that show that one is edible while the other is not.

1. Bí a bá gbé ọ̀pọ̀lọ́, ti kò bá jọ kọ̀ǹkọ̀, àá gbée sílẹ̀ ní. It means 'if we catch the toad and we see that it's different from the frog, we let it go." (Because it cannot be eaten)

King Sunny Ade said in his Merciful God track "Mò ń yan fanda fanda lójú apẹ̀gàn. Bí ọ̀pọ̀lọ́ ṣe ń yan lójú ẹlẹ́gùúsí. Ẹlẹ́gùúsí ò gbọdọ̀ yíi láta. This means, I strut in the presence of my detractors like a toad struts in the presence of Ẹ̀gúsí soup maker. The soup maker dares not cook it.

[Yehgha @yaygha]

The quality of the lies she tells you, is a reflection of

1. her estimation of your intelligence
2. Her level of investment in the relationship.

If she thinks you're smart (or smarter than her), she will put more effort into making her lies believeable

Similarly, if she has made considerable emotional and material investment in the relationship and so, exposure and a break up would come at great cost to her, she will be more deliberate and convincing with her lies.

The inverse then, is equally true.

If she thinks you're slow (or slower than her), you will get low effort lies; the kind Wike and Tinubu give us, delivered with either the expectation that you will believe them or indifference as to whether or not you do.

Same logic applies where there is a substantial asymmetry in investment.

If you've been the one doing a disproportionate amount of the heavy lifting in the relationship (initiating a vast majority of the calls, texting first, replying instantly while she doesn't, always viewing her statuses, pushing for visits, apologising, self diminishing to accomodate her etc), you signal/evince that you need the relationship more than she does because you have invested much more than she has.

And because of that substantial imbalance, she will be less motivated to make her lies convincing. Whether or not you believe them becomes an irrelevant consideration, because the consequence of your disbelief (possible break up) carries a higher cost for you than it does for her.

Under that dynamic, low effort lies like this one, become commonplace.

You cannot stop anybody from cheating, lying or betraying. But you can make the cost of doing so so high, the risks demonstrably outweigh the reward.

The higher the risks, the stronger the deterrence and the less likely they are to betray. The lower the risks the weaker the deterrence and the more likely they are to betray.

Stated in another way, you cannot control what anyone chooses to do, but you can control what it costs them to do it, and force them to calculate if that cost is worth paying.

So what it comes down to really, are
- perception
- investment
- and leverage

With those keywords in mind, analyse your relationship or marriage (past and present) and you will see why things are/were the way they are.

Goodluck

[A.Y.O @YusufAsunmogejo]

This is a classic case of what Dr. MT used to call “Beautiful Problem”. It is a success trap where two individual wins creates a collective problem.

To solve this, the first thing they need to do is stop looking at this as a competition between two careers. When a couple starts weighing who makes more or whose job is more thriving, the marriage is already losing.

What the couple needs to do is to sit down and ask where they want to be in ten years. If the Abuja job is a stepping stone to a global role or a big career peak for the husband, and staying in Port Harcourt means the wife stays at a plateau, then the move makes sense for the future of the whole family.

However, if the wife’s thriving job in PH is the foundation of their long-term stability and the Abuja job is just more money without a bigger purpose, then moving might be a strategic mistake.

Consultation is the only way forward here. The husband has the responsibility to lead the family to where the provision is, but he should not do it at the cost of his wife's sense of purpose. They should look for the middle ground.

Can the wife’s job be done remotely? Can she transition into a consultancy role or start a branch in Abuja? Abuja is a big hub for almost every industry in Nigeria. Sometimes we fear a move because we can't see the new opportunities yet.

And if they are still stuck after the consultation, they should try a trial period. The husband moves to Abuja first for six months. This allows them to see how the family handles the distance and if the Abuja job is worth the hype after the high cost of living is deducted. And if not, they should go back to the drawing board.

Like I used to tell couples, marriage is a partnership where sometimes one person carries the weight so the other can fly, and then you switch roles later.

If they are both trying to fly in opposite directions at the same time, the center will not hold. They have to pick one direction together and commit to making it work.

I hope this helps.

[Ubi Franklin Ofem @ubifranklin1]

I need her details, she will be the first beneficiary of my 40million 40th Birthday present to 40 people that’s 1million each.
Find her for me and I’ll credit her 1m.

[GozieInLondon @GozieInLondon]

@OnyeUwaoma88 The way everyone in Nigeria is insulting “poor people”, you will think that Nigeria is Babylon with gold and diamonds littered the streets. A country with extreme poverty - up to 95% of Nigerians no get 500k for account, but everyone is rich on twitter

[👑S.A.L.A.K.O🕊 @UnkleAyo]

When they move abroad as immigrants - they make friends based on visa categories. They don't even date below their visa categories. 😂

When they're on Twitter, the reiterate that stratification. small accounts vs big accounts. 💀

I reflect a lot on our ideological design, as a people. Nigerians are morally bankrupt, culturally deficient and rooted in faux elitism.

This is why some markets exist for us, because they can take advantage of that shameless insecurity - and I genuinely don't think the reason is poverty.

I've visited other poor countries. These countries do not see cars beyond what they are, a means a transportation. They don't see restaurants beyond what they are. They don't see dates beyond what they are.

Something fundamentally is wrong with us.

For us, it isn't even enough that we succeed - it is important that other fail, or don't succeed as much as we do. It is important for us to have an edge other others. It is such a sick attitude.

Person A has one house. Person B has two houses. It isn't enough that they both have roof over their heads - Person B innately subclasses Person A.

You should also to hear from a Nigerian gym goer that you're not "man enough" because you don't bench as much as he does. 💀

As segwayed as these analogies are, they are rooted in the same proportionality. It points to the same mental illness.

Who did this to us?

[ARISE NEWS @ARISEtv]

SCORES KILLED IN JOS AS GUNMEN ATTACK RESIDENTS

Scores of people have been reported killed and several injured in Angwan Rukuba, an area in Jos North Local Government Area of Plateau State, following an attack by unknown gunmen.

Eyewitnesses say the incident occurred at about 7:00 p.m., when the assailants, who reportedly arrived in large numbers on motorcycles, began shooting sporadically into the air and directly at a crowd gathered at a popular junction in the area.

The attackers were said to have started firing near a popular Plateau Private School, causing panic as residents and passersby fled for safety.

Confirming the incident, the Media Information Officer, Captain Chinonso Polycarp, stated that the attack happened while residents were going about their normal daily activities.

According to him, the number of deaths are yet to be ascertained scores were killed and many sustained injuries and have been taken to hospital for treatment.

He added that investigations are ongoing to identify those responsible, while security personnel have been deployed to the area to prevent any further escalation of violence.

End

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

And let me say this to young single ladies in relationship.

If you go to cohabit with your boyfriends or you go to spend the weekend at his place.

Please make sure that you return his change whenever he asks you to go buy anything.

Do not say "it's small, be doesn't need it".

Give account of every penny you spent from the money he gave you.

Even if he is forming not interested in knowing, do it.

If you see money in a random place, don't just take it.

Tell him that you saw money somewhere, and that you used it for this or that.

Or you ask him why he kept money so carelessly.

If you tell him that you need 500k to change your phone, and he's "stupid" enough to give it to you, do not spend the entire 500k on a phone.

Spend 250k and show him what you plan to use 250k for.

Do not go to your boyfriend's house and start forming over-familiarity with his neighbors.

Or going to beg his neighbors for salt, maggi, pepper or even water.

If he doesn't have those things in his house at the moment, use your money to buy them.

And tell him about it later.

There are many ways that you as a lady can show that you're not a liability or a leech.

But your ojúkòkòrò will not let you be great.

To you, your toto water is all that matters.

I pity you.

End.

[smv @slimvnsn]

There was a woman who sold rice and stew outside my office building on Broad Street. Every day for 4 years. Big pot. Blue plastic chairs. She knew everyone's order before they reached her table.

Her name was Mama Chidi.

Mine was the last plate before she packed up. 1:45pm. Every day without fail she'd see me coming and start dishing before I even sat down. Extra meat. Never charged me for it. I asked her once why.

She said I looked like someone who skipped breakfast.

She was right every time.

2019 she stopped showing up. No warning. Just gone. I asked around. Nobody knew anything. I switched to a restaurant down the road. More expensive. Smaller portions. Spent 4 years just quietly missing a plate of rice I never properly appreciated.

Last month my colleague forwarded a Twitter post into our work group.

A young guy. Maybe 25. Saying his mother used to sell food on Broad Street before she had a stroke in 2019 that took her left side. That she was recovering but kept asking about her regulars. That she cried one day saying she never got to say goodbye to any of them.

I DM'd him immediately.

He called me 10 minutes later.

She was sitting right next to him.

I heard her voice through the phone. Slower than I remembered. But she laughed when he told her who it was.

She said she always saved my plate last because quiet people need someone looking out for them.

I visited her in Mushin on Saturday. She can't stand long anymore. But she sat up straight in that chair and watched me eat everything she'd made.

Didn't let me leave without packing food for the road.

Some people just decide to take care of you. Before you even know you need it.

[Mwami lu @lulanzeashirafu]

Being a man isn’t always easy.
You plan the trip, fuel the car, make sure everyone’s comfortable… and somewhere along the way, the music goes quiet.

You check the mirror 🪞
All the babies? Fast asleep.
Even your babe? Gone 😄

And just like that, from “family man” to a chauffeur.

Deep down, you smile though you feel they should keep you company and help stay awake as well 😴.
But this is what love looks like;
Carrying everyone safely, even when they don’t see it in the moment.

Men… we keep driving ❤️