Your heart and brain will always be at war with eachother when you choose to keep someone bad for you in your life. See, this is where psychology gets deep. Your heart still remembers the love, the good times, and the history y’all got. But your brain remembers every fucked up thing that person did to you. So, now you’re fighting between loving somebody and feeling like you gotta protect yourself FROM them.
My therapist told me, “The reason you can’t let someone go and y’all argue every day is because your heart still loves them, but your brain has started processing them as an enemy.” Whew.
i’m past the point of explaining why something bothered me. if you lack the emotional intelligence to see how your actions affect people, that’s a burden you get to carry alone. i’m just gonna fall back quietly.