First Iâll explain why this viral post is quite misinformed and then Iâll say what I believe is actually behind the trend of shows and movies looking âdark.â 1/10
I have heard from several young people whose schools use apps to monitor their behaviour. Immediate notifications are sent to their parent if they get a demerit. Demerits are given for minor transgressions, including not being immediately on task at the start of a lesson, having two pairs of earring studs in or not having a spare pen if yours breaks.
The effect of this on both the young people and their parents is significant. Young people describe feeling on edge all day, worrying that theyâll get something wrong and then their parent will be informed. Their parents describe it as mounting anxiety each time they get a notification â and total powerlessness, because they can do nothing about it. They describe it creating family tension and arguments â and it brings problems at school into the home. For some young people, this creates very high anxiety â and for some parents, it does the same. Of course, parents respond in different ways. Some try to help, others ignore them whilst others punish their children.
These apps do more than send notifications. They collate the points which young people are given and compare them against others in their class or school. Sometimes this is done visibly â projected onto the whiteboard when itâs in âresting modeâ. Then schools use them to give awards at the end of term. This means that young people are left carrying their past behaviour records with them all term. Thereâs no way to let it go.
It's easy to see what these apps are selling. Easy behaviour management. Whatâs less clear is whether anyone has done a risk assessment on the side effects of these constant alerts for both parents and young people. For the young people who are struggling, does it actually help to be constantly reminded of that â and to have the rest of class reminded of it too? For parents who are worried about their kids, what is the impact on sending them alerts throughout the day to tell them that things arenât going well? Or could it be destructive of their mental health?
I know what youâll say â well they should just behave! Then there would be no problem. This isnât the case. I hear from very well-behaved high achievers who are constantly worried about getting a point. And I hear from kids who donât âbehaveâ, not because they are choosing to get in trouble but because the demands of school are hard for them to navigate. Both these groups (and their parents) describe these apps causing intense distress.
These apps are businesses, and they are selling a dream. Happy well-behaved kids and engaged parents. Everyone working together. Maybe it works like that for some, but itâs clear that it isnât like that for everyone.
Is anyone doing the risk assessment? Whatâs the impact on the most vulnerable?
The way we treat our young people matters. High control environments cause distress. They look peaceful, but in those silent corridors there are children giving way under the pressure. Even the ones for whom it seems like it âworksâ. We all need something better. 10/
A great review from the Daily Beast! â(Y)ou donât need to know much (or anything) about wrestling for this series to capture your attention for hours on end; the showâs compelling characters and knotty relationships will do that all on their own.â https://t.co/49H9LeOY7p