My blackpill is that you cannot talk people into having grace for you. Either they do or they don't. More important is you having grace for yourself, and rejecting anything that challenges you for that, while doing your best to improve. And you're unlikely to get support for this
my problem is I think you should still do bad things that ruin your progress or just give you unnecessary pain because im a very plot-driven person. like I think you should wake up at 5am every morning for a month just to see what it feels like to be a person that wakes up at 5am every morning, I think you should restrict meat intake to once a week not for any moral or religious reasons but just to imagine what it would be like to live like that, I think you should meetup at some random hotel with that fifty year old "artist" from craigslist who's looking for a life model to sketch.
Yes. And the mental toll of all of it. Of course people lose motivation, they have to work 3x as hard to get their basic needs met *while* society looks down on them for being poor **WHILE ALSO** the entire system is specifically made to keep poor people poor.
The wildest part about POVERTY is how much time it steals. Waiting for buses. Calling assistance offices. Comparing grocery prices. Fighting insurance. Sitting at laundromats. Being poor is a second job nobody pays you for.