I’ve been through this so many times I’m surprised I haven’t gone insane
Like this is such an insanely specific situation I didn’t know anyone else could relate to and I just don’t get why some people are allergic to just talking things out
just watched myself get unadded/blocked by a whole friend group on discord in real time with zero explanation. caught one of them before they blocked me and asked if i did anything wrong. blocked 5 minutes later, still no explanation
I literally think this is the worst outcome of the "i dont owe you anything"/"protecting my peace" mindset. Maybe op did something fucked up but I do not understand not TALKING COMMUNICATING DISCUSSING it with someone that was a friend
so what, if someone was wrong once? allow them to grow and change instead of holding it over their head. I'm not saying to forgive everyone, i'm saying that if a person has changed for the better, you can't keep trying to make them feel guilty for their past actions.+
Not to beat a dead horse but, after this happened to me years ago it really opened my eyes. Made me realize I was hanging around the most unstable, abnormal people ever and their ostracization of me was actually a blessing in disguise
https://t.co/3glco06mM0
they'll do this when one person in the group has one sided beef with you and then they'll exacerbate every single one of your flaws and build everything up and up until an irredeemable version of you exists in their head. You likely made a small, easily fixable mistake ->
https://t.co/Ge1ZonO8J5 A family friend of ours needs help. Please spread this around if you can ! We suspect foul play and are trying to get justice. Thank you very much! I've never promoted a gofu/nd/me so if anyone knows other places to send this around to please lmk!
start blocking people before they have a chance to cause issues for you. stop letting people follow you if you see them in discourse often or harassing others because one day they'll harass you too. a community built off toxic people is about as stable as a house of cards.
A lot of people need to unlearn the mindset of “I dislike this person so I’m going to get everyone else to dislike this person too.” That isn’t normal lol
why is it that people who basically ruined your life have good things happen to them while you yourself are breaking your back twice over just trying to survive
Some personal advice from someone who been in a server like this before. Leave as soon as possible. Like if you say or do one thing the owner doesn't like, the entire server and especially that friendgroup will turn on you for it even over a mild thing
The autistic urge to search for the exact right words so there's no room for misunderstanding, only for the other person to horrifically misunderstand those exact words and suddenly you're the monster and any attempts to re-explain are rejected because you've already been judged.