it’s been around a week now and i usually don’t talk about things like this or bring this kind of stuff onto my account. but honestly, it’s gotten to a point where i’m starting to get tired of seeing it all over my timeline and trying to ignore it every time.
i’ve stayed quiet because i genuinely don’t have the energy to argue over this. if you’re disappointed, that is okay. if what happened changed the way you see someone, that is okay too. i am able to understand why some people reacted the way they did, even if i don’t personally feel the same way.
you are allowed to decide that something changed the way you see someone. i’m not going to tell anyone what they are or aren’t allowed to feel because it is not my place to do so, and neither is it anyone's.
but somewhere along the way, disappointment turned into something else entirely. what i don’t understand is how quickly it all has turned into this absolute hatred toward namjoon specifically. watching people who have spent years loving his music and talking about how much he has meant to them suddenly call him names and speak about him with so much contempt is honestly insane to me.
you can disagree with someone without deciding that everything they have ever said was fake. you can be disappointed without turning a person you’ve loved for years into a villain overnight. you can acknowledge that someone made a decision you don’t agree with while still remembering that they’re a human being whose entire life and personality cannot possibly be contained in one decision. especially someone you don't even know personally.
and with namjoon, some have spent years watching him grow, question himself, change, learn, make mistakes, create, reflect and constantly try to understand the world around him. we’ve heard him talk about his insecurities, his doubts, his relationship with fame, responsibility, art, music and overall the weight of being the person he is. we’ve watched him put so much of himself into the things he creates and shares with us that he never actually owed us in the first place.
those are actually one of the many things i’ve always admired about him. he has never seemed interested in presenting himself as some perfect person with all the answers. if anything, so much of his work comes from learning and trying to make sense of things.
and now i see people acting as though they have the complete picture of who he really is.
people are complicated. circumstances are complicated. growing up, different cultures, different generations and different experiences all shape how someone sees the world. not everything can be reduced to good person vs bad person, right vs wrong, or just "this proves everything about them." life is simply much more gray than just black and white.
he doesn’t stop being kim namjoon because the internet is angry with him. he doesn’t become a different person because people decided they no longer want to see him the way they did. and so many years of his life and the things he has shared with us don’t suddenly disappear because people are disappointed.
because behind all of it, he is still a person who is allowed to be imperfect. allowed to make decisions you wouldn’t make, allowed to have perspectives you don’t share and allowed to exist outside of what you expect from him.
you don’t have to forgive him. you don’t have to agree with him. you don’t even have to keep being his fan.
but you also don’t have to destroy him to prove that you’re disappointed.
i just hope that somewhere beneath all the noise he can always remember that there are still people who see him as a whole person and people who don’t expect him to be perfect, because no one could ever be.
i will always leave room for nuance. i will always leave room for things i don’t know. and most importantly, i will always remember that there is a human being behind all of this.
Let’s be fuckng serious. @PixelProject
RM didn’t ask to be on your fckng list. He didn’t submit himself for your approval. He didn’t endorse your organisation. So acting publicly “disappointed” because he went to a concert in his private time is performative as hell.
And the hypocrisy is impossible to miss. Chris Brown’s 2009 domestic violence case was public and he pleaded guilty to felony assault against Rihanna. Yet Bãd Bun̈nÿ brought him onstage in 2018, and you still named him your #2 Role Model in 2024. But RM takes ONE photo on his private day off and suddenly your remember your principles?
The funniest part? Your own previous reasoning for recognizing Namjoon was his willingness to learn from criticism, educate himself through women’s and gender studies, consult a professor about his lyrics, and speak about gender equality.
So don't rewrite his entire history because one pic doesn't fit the narrative you are selling today.
You used Namjoon’s name, turned a private moment into public content, dragged ARMY into it, and then followed it with a donation appeal.
That isn't accountability. That's using an artist you don't represent to generate attention, traffic and money.
You don't get to monetize RM's name and fandom while pretending you are the authority on his morals.
Fuckng Clean up your own contradictions first.
lmao the way y’all are acting like Namjoon and Hobi personally funded Chris Brown’s legal fees is insane.
They went to a concert. They enjoyed the music. That’s it. They’re not required to issue a 10-paragraph apology every time they breathe near someone with a messy past.
Pixel Project suspending him while still keeping other artists who’ve done the exact same thing (or worse) is peak performative nonsense. The bar is only this high when it’s Asian men, huh?
RM has spent years speaking on mental health, equality, and self-love. One concert photo doesn’t erase that. Y’all are exhausting. Let them live.
This whole @PixelProject Project drama is so frustrating.
They put Namjoon on their “male role models against violence against women” list because of his growth, his advocacy, and the way he’s spoken up in a patriarchal industry. Then the second he (and Hobi) go to a concert and take a photo with Chris Brown, they indefinitely suspend him and act like his silence is some huge betrayal.
Meanwhile they’re quiet about other people on that same list who have their own messy associations. That’s the inconsistency fans are calling out, and it’s why people are mad.
Deactivating, blocking, deleting comments the moment ARMYs start pointing it out just makes them look worse. You can’t claim moral high ground and then run the second the pressure hits.
Namjoon doesn’t owe every random organization a public statement every time something gets controversial. He’s human, he went to a show, and people are acting like that erases years of him actually trying to do better. The selective outrage is wild.
the pixel project’s decision to remove joon from their campaign isn’t real activism, it’s pure performative pr from what it looks like.
while holding public figures accountable is a key part of advocacy, targeting a south korean artist while completely ignoring western figures who have committed the same thing holds a double standard.
bashing non western artists while giving western celebrities a free pass reveals a distinct layer of bias within these organizations.
selective moral enforcement isn’t about standing up for values, it’s low risk damage control designed to look good online.
when an initiative applies its rules unevenly based on who is easiest to make an example of, it stops being advocacy and becomes xenophobic and fake. consistency is the bare minimum for real progress and performative activism is not it.
I think it's time for some fandom parasocial education, because a lot of what’s happening is due to the level of parasocial behavior.
If anyone cares, I'm breaking down the different parasocial behaviors so you can see where you fit. People like this woman should be de-platformed if they intend to gaslight and be performative for clout but frame it as moral justice.
🧵 starts below this.
I’ve been seeing a lot of the usual selective outrage lately and some opinions from online moralists police… so let’s talk facts for a second.
Chris Brown’s domestic violence incident with Rihanna happened in 2009. He pleaded guilty. And yet, years (and multiple other controversies) later, a long list of popular and big-name artists—both male and female have still happily collaborated with him on official tracks, albums, and projects.
Here’s a non-exhaustive list of major ones post-2009:
Male artists:
• Lil Wayne (multiple times, including “Look at Me Now” and “Loyal”)
• Justin Bieber (“Next to You,” “Don’t Check on Me”)
• Usher (“New Flame,” “Party”)
• Drake (“No Guidance” – a massive hit after their feud)
• Tyga (entire collaborative projects like Fan of a Fan)
• Young Thug (Slime & B / “Go Crazy”)
• Kendrick Lamar (“Autumn Leaves”)
• Davido, Wizkid, Future, Rick Ross, Gunna, and more
Female artists:
• Nicki Minaj (repeated collabs: “Right By My Side,” “Love More,” “Only,” “Wobble Up,” and even the 2024 “FTCU” remix)
• Rihanna herself (post-incident tracks like “Birthday Cake” remix and “Nobody’s Business”)
• Ella Mai (“Whatchamacallit”)
• Zendaya (“Something New”)
• Ciara (“How We Roll”)
• H.E.R., Summer Walker, GloRilla, Sexyy Red, Shenseea, and others
The music industry kept working with him, platforms kept promoting the songs, and many of these artists still do features or joint projects.
Meanwhile, some of the same people lose their minds over BTS existing and breathing. Holding K-pop idols to a standard of absolute moral oversight while mainstream Western industry icons including major female empowerment advocates and global rappers freely work with him creates an unfair double standard.
#BTS #ARMY
We stand with Hobi and Namjoon,period.
They’re not “supporting abuse.” They’re two professional dancers and musicians who went to a concert, enjoyed the performance, and took a photo with a peer in the industry. That’s it. The selective outrage and moral policing only ever hits this hard when it’s BTS. Western artists hang out with whoever all the time and nobody bats an eye the same way.
Grown men are allowed to network, appreciate craft, and live their lives without every interaction being twisted into some grand statement. ARMY has their backs. 💜
We love you @BTS_twt
#AlwaysWithBTS
#ARMYFOREVER
Imagine being so consumed by performative moral outrage that you start threatening to harm BTS.
You don't get to pretend your outrage is about condemning violence while fantasizing about committing violence against people who didn't commit the abuse you're supposedly angry about.
Anyone attending BTS concert, please be careful and report this to the HYBE portal so they can trace who is behind this account and who is responsible for making this d3ath threat against BTS.
the most disturbing part of all this is so many of you are determined no matter the consequences to inflict as much pain, suffering and public humiliation onto bts as possible all in the name of “accountability” “education” “activism.” there’s something deeply wrong here. mind you bts aren’t the criminals yet once again people are going out of their way to misdirect their anger towards them. bts have become everyone’s performative outage punching bags. the guys told y’all to love your damn selves but a lot of you took that to mean they must be held accountable for the actions of others and are responsible for solving all the world’s problems and when they don’t live up to your standards they must be punished and taught a lesson.
i hope the guys are surrounded by all the love and support in the world right now and are able to protect their peace. you have every right to be disappointed by their decision however many of you have taken your disappointment to a very dark place. bts don’t deserve this.
I think people have completely lost the meaning of “parasocial” in this discourse. Not attacking BTS every time they make a choice I wouldn’t make doesn’t mean I think they can do no wrong. It means I understand my place as a fan. I love BTS. I think very highly of them as people based on what they’ve shown us over the years. But I do not know them, and they do not know me. I’m a fan of their art. They are grown men with lives outside of this fandom, and they do not need my approval for every concert they attend, person they meet or choice they make. I don’t have to defend every choice they make because their choices aren’t mine to defend. And I don’t have to attack them either. I can simply disagree, decide what MY boundaries are and move on. That’s not blind loyalty. If anything, believing your relationship with an artist gives you the right to “educate” them, demand apologies and pressure them into living according to your personal values feels far more parasocial to me.
The immediate backlash online against some of the BTS members J-Hope and Namjoon simply for attending an R&B concert and taking a picture with Chris Brown is a prime example of internet moral policing gone completely overboard. The toxic narrative trying to paint two grown men as suddenly "problematic" or "supporting abuse" because they met up with a massive musical contemporary is exhausting, hypocritical, and completely disconnected from how the entertainment industry works.
As a critic of this performative outrage, it is time to inject some reality and nuance into the conversation.
1. It is About the Music, Period
J-Hope and RM are, first and foremost, world-class musical artists, dancers, and hip-hop/R&B fans. Chris Brown, regardless of his highly publicized and heavily scrutinized personal history, is undeniably one of the most influential dancers and R&B performers of this generation.
•For J-Hope, a dancer who has dedicated his life to hip-hop choreography, witnessing the Usher and Chris Brown R&B Tour live is purely a matter of professional appreciation.
•Taking a photo backstage with a peer or a major global artist at a concert is standard industry behavior. It is not a political endorsement, nor is it a stamp of approval on anyone's personal mistakes.
2. The Hypocrisy of Selective Outrage
The internet loves to treat BTS like they live in an isolated bubble where they must maintain a flawless, untouchable moral standard that no other Western artist is forced to uphold.
•Major Western artists across the entire music industry including Rihanna herself, who later collaborated and reconciled with Chris Brown have worked with, hung out with, or publicly praised him.
•To suggest that J-Hope and Namjoon are uniquely "disappointing" or "betraying their morals" by taking a backstage photo is a massive, unfair double standard.
3. Grown Men Making Professional Choices
J-Hope and RM are grown men in their late 20s and early 30s. They are not characters in a curated fantasy narrative designed to perfectly coddle the internet's sensitivities. They are global music executives and performers navigating the real-world music industry. They have the absolute right to attend a concert, appreciate live music, and network with other major entities like Usher and Chris Brown without having their entire moral character assassinated by overreactive netizens.
The attempt to twist a fun, cross-cultural musical link-up into a narrative about condoning domestic violence is an Olympic-level stretch. It is entirely possible to separate an artist's personal past from their professional impact, and that is exactly what the Tannies are doing.
Muchas del fandom se está pasando de la raya. Ya no están siendo fans, están queriendo controlar a los chicos. Se sienten como si fueran la policía moral y creen que tienen derecho a decirles que pueden o no pueden hacer, a dónde ir, con quién juntarse o cómo manejar su vida.
Quieren "educarlos" o influir en sus decisiones, sinceramente es una locura
Como fans no tenemos ningún derecho a eso. Están tan metidos en la relación parasocial que ya perdieron el sentido de la realidad. Suelten el celular y toquen pasto!!
Porque la forma en que hablan de ellos es igual de tóxica que cuando otros fandoms acosan a los chicos.
Uno puede molestarse o no estar de acuerdo con algo, pero eso no justifica montar una campaña de funa contra ellos.
Ellos son adultos de más de 30 años, no adolescentes que necesitan permiso de internet para elegir a qué concierto van o con quién se juntan una noche. Ir a un concierto no es lo mismo que defender o justificar lo que esa persona hizo en su vida privada. La gente separa arte de artista todo el tiempo (y lo ha hecho siempre), y pretender que los chicos tiene que vivir según el código moral exacto de cada fan es absurdo y agotador!!
Abro Hilo de Idols que probablemente sus fandoms estén tirandole Hate a Nam y a Hobi sin saber que sus ídolos TAMBIÉN escuchan a Chris Brown.
(Ojo, este Hilo se va a ir actualizando conforme salgan o encuentre más cosas.)