𝗛𝗔𝗥𝗥𝗜𝗦 𝗦𝗣𝗘𝗡𝗗𝗜𝗡𝗚 𝗔𝗨𝗗𝗜𝗧:
$7.5 billion on EV charging stations
2.5+ years later: 7 stations installed
$42.5 billion on rural internet service
3+ years later: Not 1 home connected
$1.4+ billion for campaign advertising
Lost the election and $20 million debt
The Confident Man
The confident man is shaped over a lifetime, beginning at its very inception.
Year after year, layer after layer, his experiences, along with the opinions and accepted truths of those around him, seep into his consciousness, sculpting the thick lenses through which he views the world.
His fears, insecurities, and the biases inherent to the human condition fog these lenses further.
Yet, in the face of all this confusion, the confident man has a remarkable ability to get to the truth, as he believes it to be.
He is bombarded with inputs…
• A video of unverifiable information.
• The assertive written opinion of an intellectual he respects.
• A conversation with his friends.
• 14th-hand facts — originating from a poorly performed research study, grossly misinterpreted in a magazine article, and contorted through a game of social media telephone.
Presented with a daily buffet of information and influence, the confident man is undeterred.
He fearlessly consumes and digests the vast spread and, with astonishing speed, produces a viewpoint of his very own.
This viewpoint emerges compact, tinged by a subset of facts – the most prevalent and palatable ones he’s encountered.
Of course, the confident man shares his freshly formed opinion, and this is where the true magic happens…
With his opinion on record, he no longer has the luxury of curiosity.
Those who challenge his stance force him to defend himself.
He hunts for evidence in support of his truth — the truth — efficiently discarding anything unhelpful to this mission.
Intelligent people validate him; idiots and evil people debate him with laughably flawed arguments.
The sincere bring forth supporting evidence.
The dishonest or misguided share fake news in a futile attempt to prove him wrong.
Some who he previously deemed smart and honest have their true colors revealed.
Unsurprisingly, this process emboldens the confident man.
His thoughts, still in their intellectual infancy, are swiftly encased in amber, preserving their youthful form in a rigid, unchangeable state.
A hardened cog in the very same marketing machine that shaped his own beliefs, his 15th-hand facts and unshakeable views prejudice anyone they come into contact with.
And so it continues.
The certainty.
The polarization.
The disgust.
The hate.
Though the outcome is undoubtedly negative, the confident man means well.
He believes he’s forming and sharing his views thoughtfully. He’s trying, sometimes desperately, to help.
You and I, the observers, can see the truth.
That he, merely a human being, up against a world of powerful yet nearly invisible influence and trickery, cannot see reality as clearly as he believes he’s able.
This is how he and another confident man, born with the same level of intellect and kindness, each grazed by slightly different surroundings, can become so certain of opposing viewpoints that they fail to even comprehend how the other could be so stupid.
Or worse, so evil.
For the confident man, encountering and disagreeing with another is an inevitability, as, unfortunately, he exists as a member of confident mankind.
Billions of people, all inhabiting one planet.
Each and every one of them, merely a human being, up against a world of powerful yet nearly invisible influence and trickery, duped into actually believing their version of reality is authentic.
An entire species of delusionists.
While some manage it better than others, no amount of knowledge can cure them of the reality-distorting genetic condition with which they’ve each been born.
It is inescapable.
To cease forming opinions and beliefs is not an option for the confident man, nor is seeing the world as it truly exists.
There is only one thing he can do.
Only one hope to curb his delusion and the damage it perpetuates:
Be less confident.
@libsoftiktok@officialpsq I highly reccomend taking pictures of people outside with a mask on and sharing with freinds and family. Makes for great laughs looking at these morons.
I'm convinced that there is one skill that separates truly intelligent people from those that aren't:
Listening.
This concept of "being a recorder" by Rick Rubin explains it perfectly.
In less than a minute, Rubin provides 4 simple steps that, if followed, will change how you think about your interactions with others.
Step 1: "It starts with coming in blank. Not having any preconceived ideas, being open, and really listening. Not thinking about what you're going to say next or what your opinion is."
Step 2: "Basically being a recorder. Just hearing what comes in. Processing that information and trying to do our best to do that without any of the beliefs we might have to impact what that is."
Step 3: "I don't want to have any reaction happening when you're speaking and want to be as neutral as possible. My goal is not to form an opinion, it's to understand."
Step 4: "If you say something that somehow triggers me, I wouldn't challenge you. I would ask how did you find that? How did you get to that place? I want to understand who the person is, and through questioning, we can usually get there."
My thoughts:
So often we enter conversations with a predetermined idea of how it will go, what the other person will say, and how we will respond.
The goal, as Rubin says, should be to "understand, not form an opinion."
When someone says something you disagree with, rather than being triggered, frustrated, or defensive, why not dig deeper into how they came to that opinion?
While different than your own, that doesn't inherently mean they're wrong.
It seems as though at some level we've lost the ability to have civil discourse. To disagree and still coexist.
It doesn't make sense to me and I think––with a little effort––we can change (and just might learn something from each other along the way.)
Thanks for reading.
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Mom shares heartfelt message about her daughter who wanted to be a boy.
PLEASE READ AND RETWEET:
"This is my middle daughter Hope at 3 and 18. When she was about 2.5 yrs old, she told me she wanted to be a boy. This continued in different forms until she was 12-13. She asked me once: “When am I going to grow a winkie?” (Side note: she had an older sister and brother and had seen it all as I often bathed them together!). I explained that she wouldn’t because she was a girl. She told me she wanted to tee-tee standing up, so I explained how that wouldn’t work for her. Unfazed, she decided to try it! It didn’t work, and life went on.
She was all tomboy! She played sports and was hyper-competitive. Almost all of her friends until 7th grade were boys. She only wore boys underwear! She had to wear a dress on Sundays as we attended church and that was our rule but she often walked into her class, yanked her dress up and announced, “I’m still wearing my boy underwear.” I never argued with her about her clothes. I remember her coming home in 1st grade and asking me what a “lesvian” was because some boys had called her that on the bus. I explained it was when a girl loved another girl. She said, “Oh!” That was it! She was 6 and didn’t need a discussion on sex at that point.
We often talked about her being able to do anything a boy could do, and she could still be a girl. She was a 3 sport athlete, 3 sport captain, All-state volleyball player, and jr college (scholarship) basketball player. However, she was still a girl and a freaking awesome one! When she was 12-13, she asked for girl panties but still only wore athletic clothes.
She’s as beautiful today at 23 as she is athletic. She loves to snowboard, hike and still loves sports. We allowed her to work out who she was with perimeters that allowed her to be successful. She’s engaged to a great guy whom she will marry August 19.
I would have NEVER medicated her, surgically changed her, hormonally altered her or done ONE thing differently than what we did. I don’t care what the world, social media, trans activists push: these are KIDS!
To do anything that could change them before their brains are fully developed is ridiculous and honestly, abusive! Guide them, talk to them, advocate for them, accept them but for the love of all that is right, do not CHANGE them.
I just read a heartbreaking story about a person who physically transitioned as a young adult who is now 17 years away from that and says it was their BIGGEST mistake. Hope has often said how different her life would be for her and us if she was growing up today because the pressure to transition her would be so great. I can assure you that would have had zero affect on us.
PARENTS: please don’t get swept up in this madness. Be the voice of reason your child needs. PLEASE!!
*This has been made public! Feel free to share!
Amber Monk Parker"
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Quite often I’m in my own bubble, living my life… not watching the news, not talking to friends about world issues or what’s happening in the world.
This more recent LGBTQ ideology being pushed into schools and upon young children is one of the most insane things I think 1/4
This is big. Capital One is pulling inventory lines of credit (aka ‘floorplans’) on dealers 😳
Basically means its dealers have 90 days to refi their inventory.
From source: “Cap one is completely getting out of the inventory lending game”
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