one of the main reasons i’m so gentle with myself is cause i believe i’ve already experienced enough hardship in my life. i’ve already been mishandled and undervalued by others and myself at times. so i deserve more patience, forgiveness, and consideration at this point.
I used to be a people pleaser and then I realized I never got anything I actually wanted and that my relationships were based on mutual unspoken resentment. So I pivoted to a life of asking for what I want and being seen as an often disagreeable and difficult woman. Much better
If you run a full bottleneck analysis in your life and actually get to the bottom of the thing (no matter how many layers deep) - the last bottleneck/domino will always be an emotion you're resisting. That's it. That's how funny and wonderful the actual human condition is.
curiosity has saved my life more times than hope or optimism ever has. sometimes hope + optimism aren’t even accessible. in those moments curiosity is what carries me through