i don't wanna "win" the argument or feel "right". that's not the point nor my objective. i wanna feel like we've come to an understanding on the issue at hand. i want both of us to walk away feeling heard and understood. it's not a competition
my toxic trait is i suffer in silence and hope someone notices i’m not myself. growing up i had to constantly be there for others but no one was ever there for me. so i learned to be “the helper” but never learned how to reach out or be helped.