HOT TAKE: Boys aren't raised to be men. They're raised to not be girls. That's the root of so much misogyny. Society doesn't teach boys empathy, emotional honesty, or respect for women as equals, it teaches them to suppress vulnerability, dominate,and fear anything "feminine." They're rewarded for aggression and punished for kindness. And when adulthood hits,these habits don't just vanish, they manifest as entitlement, objectification, and sexism.
Every time you avoid something uncomfortable, your brain reinforces the idea that avoidance works. It literally strengthens the pathways that make hesitation, procrastination, or excuses automatic. And every time you do the hard thing even imperfectly your brain is building a new pathway: this is something I can do.
I JUST HEARD SOMEONE SAY
"MAYBE YOU DON'T NEED MORE TIME TO HEAL, MAYBE YOU NEED MORE EXPERIENCES THAT SHOW YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM A DIFFERENT REALTY"
AND, YEAH.
According to psychology, the urge to immediately fix a partner’s or friend’s distress instead of just sitting with them in it isn't empathy; it is your own low frustration tolerance. When someone you love is hurting, and you instantly jump into problem-solving mode, offering unsolicited advice or trying to find a silver lining, you are often trying to soothe your own secondary anxiety. You aren't rescuing them from their pain; you are rescuing yourself from the discomfort of witnessing a vulnerability you don't know how to hold.
can the greens start dying? cuz ain't no way rhaenyra has lost her father, her daughter, lucerys, rhaenys n jacaerys (with their dragons) n the greens lost jason lannister like