If you don't have a meaningful source of income, you have no business getting married whatsoever.
All these students getting married without any source of income should stop, abeg!.
All in the name of "we don't want to commit zinna (fornication)", they will get married and start constituting nuisance to us when reality dawned on them.
It is very simple, don't even bother approaching a lady for a relationship if you are still in school, if actually you don't want to commit zinnah.
Concentrate on your studies, graduate, get a job and then come back to the lady to marry her.
If Allah destined that she is your wife, you will still meet her unmarried, if she is not, vamoose and go try your luck with someone else.
Ewo ni gbogbo rakatia yi gan na 🤷♀️
Ladies, please go and get sense!
You are in 200 level, and he is in 300 level, but because your " DAWAH Ustauz" told you that courtship is Haram, that marriage is better immediately you start loving a man, then Gbam! You carry the boy go home say you want to marry him.
They have kuku told you that a wedding (Nikkah) in the sitting room with less than ten people has more blessings, so in your head, you believe you guys are safe from looking for money for ceremony, cabin biscuit and pure water (sachet water) will come to the rescue.
Upon all the advice your family gave you to make you realise that Nah school dem send you to study, no be to go and be looking for "Dickson" iro ooo, Nah the back of your ears everything fell to, you sha won marry yi naani.
You want to start eating wetin your mama dey eat.
The booda loves you and you love him too, kuma courtship is haram, therefore Ile Oko ya!
Mama pleaded Papa cried, you carry axe 🪓 put for head, and they were forced to send you off.
They beat drum 🥁 for you (won pa ilu fun e), just like my mother used to say "Oni iya nio je eyi to po" (it is the owner of the suffering that will take the most of the sufferings)
and I used to add to it that...
that was in the olden days, you see now, Oni iya nio je gbogbo iya (Nah the owner of the suffering who will experience her sufferness alone, no one will share from it, she will take everything)
Okay...
Now that you are married, following the path of what you were told by your "dawah teacher"; "family planning is haram" and the booda too does not know how to withdraw his "qalam" (pen) from your "igo tada" (ink bottle) A.K.A. Honey pot so that excess ink will not drop inside, he just dey shoot dey go ni. Bullet con dey scatter everywhere.
You kuku know that God is merciful, he just kept putting Barakah in every seed planted in your fertile land. Oyun bade. (Pregnancy don come).
Throughout the nine months, you guys didn't buy a pin for the preparation of the newborn.
You as the "understanding wife" kept saying that Abu is trying because he used to buy you Akara by the junction every night from his pocket money given to him by his parent therefore if he has, he will do but he doesn't have ni.
Now you have no choice but to be calling your family for help as delivery time is near, and as parents they can't watch you their lovely daughter die out of pregnancy and delivery challenges that may arise, then they are forced to bring out money to save your life. Hmmm, awon Abiyamon tooto.
Alhamdulilah, you have delivered a baby boy, just exactly like his dad, after the naming, everybody returned to their houses, you relied on the clothes and money that people gifted you for the baby, and later in the night "Abu" in his sweetest of tongue, sweet talked you and collected all the money you were gifted from you because he was about to start his project and has a small girl too, you don't want to mismanage the money, hence why you gave him.
No food in the house, no milk in the breast, still living in one BQ not too far from the school, you don't even have enough strength to go to school again, even if you go, nothing can enter your head because you are very hungry.
There are many questions like these that have baffled me even from childhood, some of which were responsible for my initial falling away years ago.
Am I trying to cast doubts in anyone? No, I'm not interested in that.
However, there's no denying that most people have questions.
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Let's define our terms.
Secular is not equal to carnal.
Secular songs can be centered on self towards growth or greed or centered on affairs other than self e.g. national interest (anthem), celebrations (birthdays).
Gospel is 1 Corinthians 15.
Music is not equal to worship.
A Christian singing a secular song is not worshipping the object or subject (I struggle with English too) of the song.
Outrage without thought is not pretty.
Now that this is out of the way.
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Let us ask some questions.
Is every music group that has christians in it a choir group that follows Colossians 3:16?
If a Christian (with private sins like me) writes a song that has the gospel as its subject... can believers (without sin like you) listen and sing along?
If a person with obvious questionable morals writes melody for a Christian with private sins to write songs that are centered on Christ... can believers sing along?
If a person with private moral failings writes a mix of carnal (centered on self) and non-gospel (centered on the affairs of life)... can believers sing along to both or pick and choose?
Is every song a teaching? i.e. when I sing a song by Naira Marley I am propagating his gospel and signing up as an adherent?
Can a believer use a carnal song with questionable lyrics as background music for his wedding video but frown upon a choir group that sings same song?
Can a minister of the gospel (non-music) entertain?
When a pastor "cracks" a joke that is neither lewd nor irreverent in the omelette of his sermon is that inspired entertainment or clownish exuberance?
As a minister of the reconciliation is it everyday you are ministering?
Can you deploy skills you built up as a follower of Christ towards your 9-5 non-gospel money making endeavor?
Is it everyone who has a 9 to 5 or bank account that is serving Mammon or are we more lenient with that than music ministers who have a transferrable skill and who used the skill to sing a "clean" secular non-carnal song that many believers have sang?
Is it immaturity to have non-gospel songs on your playlist?
If I am getting married and while dancing into the hall the DJ plays ojapiano... and before I reach the MC, I die. Will I go to heaven?
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My sincere question
What is the acceptable protocol for music creation and music consumption for the Christian in this time?