Tosin Abolaji

originally creative/Yahweh's Project/Happy Child/Lawyer/ Advisor and Consultant.

[Big J😌 @the_janetnoah]

@tosinolaseinde Referrals are one the best things as an adult, most especially if you’re being referred by an outstanding person, it automatically gives you an edge.

[Creator JD @dej66881970]

@tosinolaseinde And also to add when a credible person spend their social currency you, you will have to work extra hard not reduce the strength of their reputation.

[Omotayo Olokede @Iamkolotayo]

@tosinolaseinde I said this... This morning

https://t.co/mZoZWvGhjk

[Olúwatósìn Olaseinde @tosinolaseinde]

A lady shared that she had been out of work for 9 months and had gone through multiple interviews with no success. Then, a friend referred her to a company and to her surprise, they skipped the interview process entirely because of the strength of that referral. Her friend was known as an exceptional and trustworthy employee, and the company valued her recommendation so highly that they fast-tracked the process straight to an offer letter.

Even more amazing, the new job pays three times more than her previous one.
What stood out to me is this: being credible and diligent isn’t just an asset to you, it’s also an asset to your network.

This is a powerful reminder to be excellent and committed in whatever you do. Your integrity and diligence can open doors not only for you, but for others connected to you.

[Oreoluwa Bukola, CFA. @BukkyOA]

@advocate_rotimi Well said

[Oreoluwa Bukola, CFA. @BukkyOA]

You will get to a point in your life’s journey and realise you know enough to get to the very top. All you now need to do is double down on your reach and visibility, and build a deep network of high-net-worth individuals.

[Polyglot adedeji Odulesi @polyglotodulesi]

I just came from Campus where I went to visit my daughter. I owe her admission to God and the effort of one man, Alex Onyia. He challenged JAMB for failing students from Lagos and Southeastern States.

Fortunately, JAMB admitted their error and exams were rewritten. My daughter who had previously scored 179, later scored 299 which gave her straight admission for her chosen course of study.

Alex Onyia organized the successful South East Maths Olympiad where three students Egejurum Onyedikachi, Onwubiko Chimdiebube and Don-Anele Munachimso emerged as champions. They won cash prizes in millions together with their teachers. Many corporate organizations were partners.

The students are currently competing on a global stage at the International STEM Olympiad Grand Finale happening in Rome from July 2nd - 8th.

This is not the effort of the Federal Government of Nigeria or a State Government or Local Government. It is the effort of just one man with support from the citizenry - Alex Onyia!

[Jade Osiberu @jadeosiberu]

I know a number of people who didn’t marry their “spec” but are in the healthiest marriages I know. Their spec was typically whatever was culturally deemed to be at the apex of the attractiveness pyramid when they were growing up. For a lot of guys in my generation, it was the music video “vixens” from the late 90s/early 2000s Hip & R&B music videos with ‘coke bottle figures’ and or light skinned eurocentric features. When it’s time to find a partner for the very serious endeavor of sharing a life with, that “spec” is simply inadequate as a measure of compatibility and that’s understandable. The foolishness though is communicating it as though their partner somehow didn’t measure up to their “spec” instead of simply admitting that the idea of their spec was stupid all along and a young boy’s lack of wisdom of what makes a good life partner.

Communicating publicly or even privately to your partner that they weren’t your spec to begin with may seem harmless, after-all you’re just being honest. But subconsciously, it’s an ego trip for you who “settled” and for your the partner, it’s a chip they will always carry on their shoulder that to you, they aren’t quite enough. They’re missing something you had always longed for, so much so that you still consider it to be your “spec”. It’s an unnecessary mind fuck and a cruel thing to say about somebody who is sharing a life with you. No matter how flowery you are with the compliments that come after. You’ve already knocked them down several pegs.

If the point is to say your spec changed then talk about the stupidity of having a spec to begin with. Because I’ve never heard anyone in these situations talk about character attributes being their spec, it’s always superficial stuff. Or speak about how meeting your partner opened your eyes to what true beauty is. Speak in ways that elevate and affirm your partner.

[Harley knows you are lonely and so she @miss_ezeani]

If you live in Shomolu and under Band A please read this:

I think it’s now time that we rally around and do something.

It’s going to 2 months now that we’ve been dealing with this madness, yet these light companies do not see it fit to address this.

If you search “Band A” on Twitter, you’ll see many people complaining, tagging this companies, they see it, they ignore it. It’s time we approach this as a unit.

This is me calling on all Shomolu Band A users, wether it’s online or we having to take this offline, let us do something! Before you know it now, this will become a norm.

Retweet if you. Drop your suggestions on how we can go about this. We have every right to light we pay heavily for, or the very least an explanation.

I urge you not to ignore this as we’re all suffering it.🙏🏾

[Maruf Muhammed Esq @MarufMuhammed4]

First five years as a Litigation Attorney will teach you these:

1. Being employed as a Litigation Lawyer is not as glamorous as it was painted to us at the University and Law school. The reality is far more exhausting, tasky and demanding.

2. You will get anxious appearing before some court rooms regardless of your expertise and experience. Confidence as a Litigation Attorney is what you grow into and doesn't come with the call to bar certificate. You build it from showing up day by day.

3. You can never know everything as a Litigation lawyer but you must subscribe yourself to continuous learning to serve your clients better. Seeking the right mentorship on case to case basis is fundamental and expedient.

4. You will lose some cases and win some. There will be days for you and days against you in court. When it is day for you, be happy and celebrate. When it is day against you, be patient and learn from the court's reasoning. Both days teach lessons you cannot learn from the textbooks.

5. Litigation is exhausting because everything is time bound. The day you are briefed of a case is the day the client has transferred the problem unto you. Your mind will start working and running to find solution to the problem. As a Litigation Lawyer, not everyday feels meaningful or satisfying; a truth many young wigs quietly live with.

6. Some of your mates in other spheres will seem to make it faster than you whilst your journey takes longer. Learning in Litigation is an investment that can change the trajectory of your life within a twinkle of an eye hence, you need more than the knowledge. You need patience!!! Comparison will steal your peace and joy.

7. In some cases, opposing counsel appear to be more truthful than your own clients. Human beings too de lie o.
Most clients lie to their lawyers primarily out of fear, shame, and the desire to control the narrative. They may attempt to hide embarrassing details, minimize their own faults, or manufacture a "better" story, hoping to avoid punishment or manipulate their legal outcome.

8. Your client's case is not your personal battle. Show empathy, care deeply but do not lose yourself in matters that are not yours to carry emotionally. Emotional intelligence is key for a successful legal practice. If you don't guard your emotions, some clients will make you engage in professional misconduct and leave you to face it when the consequences show up.

9. You will feel intimidated by senior colleagues and Judges in court. Ahhhh, you will make mistakes that will make them laugh at you. Every expert was once an amateur and no man is an Island. With experience, fear slowly turns into familiarity.

10. Some days feel to repetitive; you wake up to go to court, conduct a search, draft a correspondence, meet deadlines, conduct clients during interviews, write minutes of meetings, get home late, empty and tired. That's also part of the journey, counsel. Brace up!!

11. You will eventually see reasons why many brilliant lawyers left litigation for other areas of human endeavours. You will realistically see that what you watch in movies and skits is different from what happens in real life in court. Some lawyers thrive excellently in it whilst some keep struggling day by day whilst hoping of a good future in it. Both realities exist and they are valid.

12. You will be forced to sit down and decide one thing: whether to continue on the path or find something else to do. Whether to go home or go harder.

Rahma cares ✍️

[Chief UC Maxwell, SAL 𓃵 @UkomahM]

Tinubu parades himself as the First Muslim Southwest President of Nigeria with no track record and only a disgraceful economy.

People are parading someone to us with "First Female NBA President". The real question is, WHERE IS THE TRACK RECORD? WHAT DO YOU WANT TO DO FOR THE NBA?

It is a disgrace to think that lawyers are interested in who first became a President from a certain emotional and, I dare say, silly perspective.

I lost a debate in the University because the opposing debater was crying... Not because her points thumped that of my team. Such Injustice.

The NBA is not in a gender war and no candidacy should put us in a gender war. We should be asking these people the right questions.

[Adepeju Jaiyeoba @pjlalah]

Whatever you do this week, ensure you look like the bag of money you are chasing.

In 2018, I went for a client meeting. The client insisted on seeing me off. He walked me outside his office and I kept pacing up and down for my uber before eventually resolving to walk to the junction to meet him. My invoice for 1.2m instantly became 200k. I still can’t explain it but I guess 200k is for confidence 😃

Last week, I was in a meeting with a client to close transactions worth billions of Naira. Three gentlemen walked into the meeting room dressed like they just got back from the village square and I mean this seriously. They had an okay presentation and gave reasonable responses to questions asked.

Immediately they stepped out, the client took one look at me and said “Peju, I’m sure you know we aren’t giving those people a billion naira talkless of 7.”

I understood immediately.

I’ve been there.

This is not to say we should stop aiming high, live above our means or seek to misrepresent our position or status.

This is to say:

Understand the Nigerian business environment where you are first judged by a number of factors including who sent you, how you look and how you are dressed before you even open your mouth to show competence.

Continue to strive hard to create opportunities for yourself but when those opportunities eventually show up, try not to look like your problems, do your best and put your best foot forward.

As a person from a humble background, the world is already leading you 20:0. Don’t increase the scoreline by being laid back, nonchalant or lackadaisical about your own growth or journey.

You might not match the image in their mind but ensure you make it super difficult for them to say no to you.

Fun fact: The client I went to close a transaction for last week is the same one that paid me 200k in 2018.

Consistency and confidence surely counts for something….

[NgoziOkika @NgoziOkika]

@BukkyOA Focus, Focus, Focus!

My friend used to say and I quote “ whatever you focus on and give attention grows”

The keyword is FOCUS.

[Oreoluwa Bukola, CFA. @BukkyOA]

I learnt beadmaking during my NYSC days in Lafia, Nasarawa State.

So when I got back home after my service year, I started making bead bags, flower pots and matted bags for sale alongside applying for jobs.

For context, at the time, I was already a chartered accountant with a first-class degree in accounting.

My mum would tell her friends and colleagues about my little business, and they would place orders, and I would stay up all night making those pieces for them.

Then one day, something happened.

My mum got back from work, and she said, ‘Ore, one of my friends placed an order for a bead purse; please help me make it for her’

My dad, who was also there, got instantly furious, and he said: ‘This is not my vision for her life, stop bringing her these orders, I want her to focus on getting good job opportunities’.

That was a reset moment for my mum and me. We just quietly dispersed, and it was the last order my mum ever brought me 🤣

I then refocused my time and energy on the aptitude tests I kept failing, began passing them, and landed a bank role and later a PwC role to kick-start my career.

[Halimah Ahmed (Tiwal'adire) @ahmedhalimah02]

@BukkyOA Our fathers always know what is best for us, our mothers loves us to accept every version of us available. Both of them are important in a child's life

[Victor Okafor @TheVictorOkafor]

If you’re between 21-27, this video could change the trajectory of your life.

I’m rooting for you.

❤️⏰

[Oreoluwa Bukola, CFA. @BukkyOA]

Again, everyone is asleep, so let’s chat about something I found consuming content outside my tax bracket.

There are the REAL rich people, and then there are those who aren’t rich but teach other people to be rich.

It takes intuition and a trust in your better judgment to find and stick to the REAL ones.

How do you identify the fake ones?

[AGBO OBINNAYA @AgboObinnaya]

I know a colleague of mine who takes just one client for the whole year. He runs a solo private law practice and the client pays him 250 million naira yearly. He invests part of the money in mutual funds so he gets returns every month. The rest of money goes to family vacation, helping the poor and maintaining his lifestyle. The client is his Dad.

[Alex Onyia @winexviv]

In Ghana, any child who qualifies to represent the country in the International Maths Olympiad gets an automatic scholarship to MIT.

Interestingly, the head of their local Olympiad unit is a Nigerian. He left Nigeria the moment the Nigerian government stopped sponsoring our students for the program.

MIT students regularly travel to Ghana to prepare their students for the Olympiad.

It is also a huge talent pipeline for a company called Jane Street. They are the major sponsor for Ghana Maths Olympiad. Their starting salary is between $300k - $600k annually.

[Chioma Genia @eugeeyy]

The moment he starts calling me "big girl/woman", I dust my slippers and disappear