I've noticed a lot of people treat liking female characters and sapphic ships as like. A quota you need to fulfill rather than simply engaging with well written characters and relationships you enjoy
fandoms when u have money: yeah we actually hate merch and will never make merch ever and its ugly. we will also kill every etsy shop ever
fandoms when ur broke: yknow that old piece of merch you love and cant find anywhere? yeah we broughtit back. three days only.
no one ever talks about the guilt of disliking your parents that have scarified a lot for you, like yeah i know u did a lot for us to be where we're at, but you also have beaten me down emotionally like no one else