One unwritten rule of dating me is don’t ignore me. You can tell me you don’t want to talk. You can tell me you need space, whatever the case. Radio silence is a hard limit for me. It touches a very vulnerable place in me.
i once heard someone say something that sat heavy on my chest:
“healing isn’t convincing people to treat you better. it’s realizing you’re allowed to leave when they don’t.”
i didn’t fully understand it then, but i do now.
As someone who gets overwhelmed by people and enjoys being alone, I am working on cultivating my friendships, showing-up for my friends and getting out more this year.
We have to build that community and it starts with getting out of our comfort zone.
I’m a grown ass man! If we getting to know each other, I’m not suppressing the way I feel about you. If you make me smile, how you make me feel inside, what I like about you. I’m telling it all! Even if you dont tell me the same things. These are my feelings & I won’t be ashamed.
Becoming less reactive is a huge part of growth and decreasing stress. If you let everything get you worked up, you’ll damage your mind, body, and spirit.
I do not handle hurt well at all and I do not like who I become when I am hurting. That's why I really don't like being mistreated or played with. If you aren't genuine, don't even bother me, Just move around.
INVEST IN YOUR LOOK….get the facial, buy these shoes, the jewelry, get your hair and nails done. You look better, you feel better, you do better, people treat you better, life is better.
Even in close friendships, learn to mind your own business. If they’re not sharing something with you, it’s likely because they don’t want you to know or they’re just not ready yet. You’re not entitled to know everything happening in their life at all times.
I love that I'm not a casual person. Yes, it is that serious. Yes, I care, & things mean a lot to me, so l move accordingly. Everything is important.