Not a day goes by that I am not reminded of a famous study where men and women were forced to play a card game against an opponent.
Their opponent then either cheated and stole money from the subjects; or cooperated and played fairly.
Afterwards, the men and women were strapped into an FMRI, and watched as their prior opponent received a painful electric shock.
For men, the brain produced an empathic response when the honest opponent was shocked. But it produced no empathy, and in fact showed signs of a pleasure when the cheater was shocked. Their empathy was conditional on how the opponent behaved.
But for women… The brain produced an empathic response for both types of opponents. It didn’t matter if they had been cheated by them prior, they wanted to alleviate everyone’s suffering regardless.
This is their greatest asset, it is the feminine divine. It is the reason why a mother’s love is unconditional.
It’s also the reason why you will be stabbed to death in a Walmart parking lot by a borderline retarded Haitian with 73 prior convictions.
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American mentality: "I don't want it handed to me, I want to earn it. Send your best and let's compete."
European mentality: "Yes, the call was incorrect, but it worked to our advantage. I demand your best are kept benched for the sake of bureaucratic regulatory consistency."
Funny thing about the whole red card hub bub is 99% of the world knows FIFA is corrupt — it might be the single thing people across the globe believe and tell you, regardless of if you ask — and then Trump blasts in, without any care, like the kool aid man, and does some small fry FIFA corruption, and everyone is like “Woah . The integrity of the game. It’s gone. It’s ruined forever”
The most interesting part of the red card saga isn't the ruling. It's how differently Americans and Europeans process the idea that they might have been wronged.
Europeans are fundamentally different from Americans in one particular way: they expect life to be aggravating and at times unfair. It's just a fact of moving through the world. I joke that in Europe, the customer is always wrong. You didn't read the fine print. The only pharmacy in town is closed every other Tuesday for three hours, and even if the times weren't posted, that's still your problem. Too bad if you want the bill, because the waiter's on his union-mandated half-hour smoke break, and you're just going to have to wait.
To quote the great Mark Knopfler: sometimes you're the windshield, sometimes you're the bug. There's something freeing in that. Things are less in your control, so there's less angst in managing your expectations.
In America, things couldn't be more different. We simply can't accept a wrong left unrighted.
The flight attendant sneezed handing you a drink on your one-hour flight? 15,000 frequent flyer miles. Didn't like your appetizer? A replacement is on the way, and the whole course comes off the bill. There's a reason our interstates are lined with trial lawyer billboards.
Europeans have turned complaining into a continental pastime with no expectation that the universe owes them a remedy for their grief. You gripe about the train being late, your friends nod solemnly and everyone goes back to their apéro. In America, we launch a full-blown investigation of the train system, sue the government (and its contractors) that allowed for the tardiness and hold a Congressional hearing on the state of national infrastructure.
So to an objective observer, the red card shouldn't have happened, and VAR was a travesty. To Americans, our star player shouldn't be unfairly banned from a match we couldn't afford to lose for a card he so obviously didn't deserve.
Who cares that FIFA used a little-used reversal to fix it. Who cares that other people are mad about it. We. Were. Wronged. It was unjust. It must be corrected. We would accept nothing less.
Europeans waxing poetic about the sanctity of the game are, of course, talking about a governing body whose last tournament host was decided via confirmed cash bribes — one that imposed dress codes on women, shrugged off widespread allegations of modern slavery and reconfigured the entire tournament calendar to suit the host country. Which is exactly the point. If you've made peace with all of that, at least enough to watch the tournament four years later, a probationary suspension isn't actually a scandal.
Maybe that's the real divide. Over millennia, Europeans have made peace with being the bug. Americans have never once considered it, and apparently, we're not about to start now.
So to recap what happened with the USMNT:
• Balogun received a bogus red card
• VAR protocol isn't followed (no slow-mo)
• Trump calls Infantino to ask about the process
• US Soccer lawyers preapre & submit an appeal
FIFA's independent 18-person disciplinary committee then met, approved the appeal, and told Balogun he could play in Monday's match against Belgium.
That's what everyone is complaining about?
All rules were followed, and that same process is open to every other country. The only difference is everyone knows the red card was a mistake to begin with.
I’m sure if you asked 10 Americans if immigration was good 8 would say yes. If you asked 10 Americans if 30,000 Haitians should move into their town I don’t think 8 would say yes.
The abstract ideal is always more attractive than the rubber meats the road praxis.