Sorry, but a partner who ruins your mental health cannot be the love of your life. Ever. I know you love them. I know you've built a future in your mind with them. I know you keep hoping they’ll change, that things will get better, that the good moments will eventually outweigh the bad.
But here's the truth you need to hear: real love doesn't destroy you. Real love doesn't leave you anxious, depressed, constantly questioning yourself, walking on eggshells, or losing pieces of who you are. That's not love, that's trauma bonding.
my side of the story doesn't matter anymore. Life happened. It hurt and I healed. Most importantly,I learned who deserves a seat at my table and who will never sit at it again
A serious relationship changes how you move. Not because you’re controlled, but because you’re considerate. Being grown enough to do whatever you want is easy. Being mature enough to ask, “Would I be okay if my partner did this?” is respect. That’s how trust stays intact.