Just dropped v2 of my portfolio.
Clearer thinking, tighter execution, better storytelling, and a stronger reflection of how I actually approach design and problem-solving today.
Check it out - https://t.co/E4jGWZY5sn
I have one piece to share.
I hope all these TL conversations do not poison your heart.
I hope you're not training your mindspace to start choosing partners from a place of fear, or lowered likelihood to cheat. Ask Israel Juju.
These are faulty compasses.
Churchgoers cheat. Atheists cheat. Hijab wielders cheat.
Virgins cheat. Adelebos cheat. 20s cheat. 30s cheat. 40s cheat.
I hope the factors that calibrate your values, are not from Twitter thinkpieces but are strengthened offline. Else, you will end up as a box of ruin.
My safest predicators for relationships are:
- brackets,
- reciprocity.
If you're doing well financially, box within potentials like you doing well financially. Don't be a 7fig earning techie & you'll be hunting smallies struggling with 200L carryover in Laspotech.
Mental brackets. Intellectual brackets. Financial brackets. Exposure brackets.
One of my theories as to why, people (read men) scale way below these brackets is because they're scripting scenarios for control. They're hunting "bendable" women. Chief, she won't be naive forever - but I'll expand on this, some other time.
Be big on reciprocity. As you're doing for your partner in the early weeks, if they like you they would be doing as much.
Using the filters of brackets and reciprocity, are safer predicators than fear and paranoia.
I chose not to reply to anyone responding to that tweet because you people have constantly proven on X that you can go to school, learn how to read, string words together, and sound eloquent, yet still lack common sense and discernment. Many times, you deliberately miss the whole point and tweet just because you want to argue with yourselves. You want every word spelled out for you as if you are five years old, or like I am your lecturer or something. Do you not understand what critical thinking is?
There were clues in that tweet, in fact, I mentioned that some men don’t even try at all to make these things happen. Which is TRUE. Also, do I need to tell you that there is a rule of generalization, that there are always exceptions? Lastly, what I said was just basic psychology. I simply pointed out that emotional intelligence and having a relationship with your kids are important, and that children will lean toward their mother if she is the one showing up for them. You can cry about it, but it is true.
You people say rubbish, draw useless conclusions, and expect someone to be civil with you. It is annoying and exhausting abeg .
I have tweeted this a few times, and I will tweet it again.
Firstly, we cannot say they didn’t build or buy a house for their fathers just because it wasn’t posted online. Secondly, if they didn’t, there must be a story behind it. Lastly, and most importantly, we men underestimate the importance of bonding, showing up, and emotionally supporting our kids. We act like these things aren’t as important as providing. Many men don’t even try at all. no bond, no emotional support, and just providing.
Do you know why many men are quick to disown their kids? It’s because there is no bond. We see it online all the time: a video of kids making mistakes, and men commenting, “If any of my kids try this, I will disown them.” That easy? The first thing that comes to your mind is to disown them? I changed so many diapers, soothed their sickness, and endured every tantrum, and you just want me to disown my kids? Many men see kids as people they only need to provide for.
If all you do is provide, while the mother does the showing up, emotional support, and bonding, then when the kids grow up and it’s time to give back, they will do the same. Not because they are bad kids, but because that’s what they learned. They will celebrate their mother more. They will talk to her more. Meanwhile, you as the father who only provided, will only receive financial gestures and gifts. You will be taken care of. They will like post their mom and rarely post you. Ask people who openly celebrate their dads if all he did was provide.
But if you never celebrated them when they were young, why should they celebrate you? You can’t expect them to miraculously create a bond you never built. If you’re lucky, your kids may unlearn that pattern and try to build a relationship with you, but it will be difficult, because they were raised with, “As a father, it’s my way or the highway.”
I work 12 to 16 hours sometimes, and my daughter has a game right after that. I get tired, really tired, but I still show up. And many times, when I get there, the smile that lights up her face when she spots me in the crowd is priceless. I love seeing that.
Do you think I always have the strength to go to parks, birthday parties, pools, and watch her play sports? Sometimes I want to rest, but I still try. And whenever I can’t make it, I communicate that with her. I don’t just fail to show up. I explain and give her reasons. So, my brothers, providing for your family and being emotionally present aren’t mutually exclusive. Try. Otherwise, when you are down, your kids won’t be beside you on your deathbed, but they will make sure you d*e comfortably.
She's back!!
Exactly a year ago, I decided I wanted to be less chronically online. I wanted to give up something I held too closely. To live life in real life.
So I left X, and lived.
Now I'm back...no longer as DADA DESIGNER but as Dodoo!!
Please RT so I find my people!
The "let's collab" conversation is everywhere.
Almost none of them go anywhere.
Not because people aren't willing.
Because willingness without structure
isn't really collaboration.
It's just people, working alone; together in theory.
Join the waitlist👉 https://t.co/BKbFB4iYHF
There are platforms to show your work.
Platforms to connect.
Platforms to get hired.
But something feels… off.
That gap you feel? We feel it too. And we're building what fills it.
You’ll want in early.
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Your husband can have a good job at Tesla when you get married and 2 years in he’s laid off, his highly skilled so you think another job is gonna happen soon, next thing you know it’s 3-6 months of job hunting, savings draining, what’s gonna happen next? Leave him? Loool
okay this is one life hack i live by😂
bro the thing is, when someone say something towards you, they are either lying or saying the truth, if they are lying then you have no reason to get mad, if they are saying the truth why get mad because they are saying the truth?😂
thats why i never get mad when random people say stuff about my physical appearance, it’s either a lie or its true, either ways theres nothing to get mad about.😂
“you’re short” no im not short im 5’9 and you’re lying, thats literally taller than the average guy😂
“you’re ugly” no im not, i might not be the finest person ever but im more attractive than the average guy by far.😂
“ you’re a broke guy” ofc i am, its the truth you’re only reminding me of what im already aware of, is that supposed to hurt me?😂
“your belly is getting big you’re becoming fat” ofc it is, im aware i need to hit the gym😂😂
when people say hurtful stuff and you act hurt, they keep doing it cos they see it gets to you, be self aware today, start knowing what you are and what you’re not😂
We shipped a new @shadcncraft website today.
Also the plugin now does 2 big things:
• Turns your Figma designs into shadcn/ui-compatible React code • Lets you copy CLI commands for Pro blocks from selected Pro components
Less rebuilding. Faster shipping.