@jane07952124542 My friend got stopped by an off duty emt because “your energy feels like you needed a hug.” The world has ways of reminding us that we have a purpose here. It might not feel like it right now, because it could come years from now. Trust in your purpose when all is lost.
And let me be so clear about something: I would not have posted that thread, if I didn’t know that at least 20 people, maybe more, felt the same way I do.
I’m going to be very direct, because this keeps being dismissed as “passion” or “support,” and it isn’t. The behaviors of TomatoSmosh aka Alyssa is clear parasocial attachment.
It warps fandom spaces, puts people in uncomfortable positions, and normalizes the idea that access is earned through persistence, visibility, or emotional display. It isn’t. Admiration does not grant proximity, and attention is not consent.