I'm not a racist. I'm a culturalist
I believe some cultures are superior to others
For example, I prefer cultures that do not encourage wife beating, paedophilia, clitorectomies, stoning and constant inflation of the male ego
I am also aware of the difference between Islamoscepticism and Islamophobia
Notice that hate does not come into this
Only moral preferences
The reason you’re unhappy is that you haven’t found the right thing to buy. There’s something out there you can purchase that will make this all go away
The autistic experience of being blamed for a misunderstanding when you communicated clearly and directly while the other person communicated vaguely and indirectly.
Studies have found that childhood emotional neglect, which involves the absence of emotional attunement rather than active abuse, can produce CPTSD symptoms just as severe as physical or sexual abuse. This surprises many people because neglect leaves no visible marks and involves nothing happening rather than something happening. But the developing brain requires consistent emotional responsiveness to build healthy regulatory systems.
My therapist told me, "When a woman grows up feeling unseen, she learns to love by overgiving. She pours into everyone else, hoping that one day someone will finally pour back into her. She becomes the caretaker, the fixer, the one who shows up even when no one shows up for her. And the hardest part? Deep down, she's not trying to be strong. She's just waiting for someone to do for her what she's spent her whole life doing for everyone else."
Constantly apologizing, over-explaining, flinching at normal tones, fearing conflict, struggling to set boundaries, people-pleasing, chronic self-doubt, hypervigilance, feeling unworthy, needing reassurance, and believing others' emotions are always your responsibility all can scream emotional childhood abuse.
Today I learned a term called “Premature Competence”: When a child is forced to become self sufficient too early because no adult is reliably meeting their needs, they develop a false maturity. In adulthood, they appear highly capable but struggle to ask for help because they never learned it was safe to need anyone.