Al, I wonder about your well being every month. I really have no idea if you're alive. I feel concern. I just wanted you to be okay, i am really hoping you’re doing okay. I am sorry for what the world has put upon you. If youre still here, give me a sign maybe?.
This is a coping mechanism. Even if you think you "used him for his body" it doesn't create any emotional or social devastation for him. Men weren't raised like that. It means nothing to him. At the end of the day he goes online or into male chat groups and says "i fucked her".