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[siren @softlysebs_]

hey sis please don’t lose the random urge cartwheel. always cartwheel❤️

[siren @softlysebs_]

being from neither, but still from both of the wider, i see and understand, but often i’m like… yeah this isn’t really my experience. nor my friends’, cousins’ etc.

we recognise it, but that doesn’t make it universal. and yet somehow we’re the outsiders. interesting indeed.

[siren @softlysebs_]

it’s interesting that “African” and “Black British” posts often describe a structure, a strictness, that seems particularly concentrated within one prominent country, and city respectively.

(ofc not exclusive to them at all, but noticeably concentrated)

[siren @softlysebs_]

cultural prominence plays a part.

one population’s norms can become so visible that we stop describing them as one expression of a wider culture and start describing them as the culture itself.

i wish we were more specific about whose experience we’re actually describing fr

[siren @softlysebs_]

it’s really important to separate yourself when the flashbacks of dickheadery happen.
it may hurt you still cos you would never but years later you shouldn’t relate their behaviour to you boo

[siren @softlysebs_]

i think it’s, “i can’t believe i never knew you were capable of that”. when you’re healed, the centre of gravity switches.

you realise you just happened to stand in the path of their moral failure and it was never about you.

[𝜗℘ @lacedli]

i don’t know if it’s my pattern recognition or not but my avoidant attachment acts up whenever i can feel that their honesty is a facade, and every time it happened my intuition was always right

[siren @softlysebs_]

you can look back and think “damn that’s crazy”, (in fact once you’re over it, it can even look crazier) and not attach yourself to anyone’s wrongdoing.

[siren @softlysebs_]

i think it’s, “i can’t believe i never knew you were capable of that”. when you’re healed, the centre of gravity switches.

you realise you just happened to stand in the path of their moral failure and it was never about you.

[soup🌱 @thrluv]

being healed doesn’t stop those random “i really can’t believe you did that to me” moments

[liz🧚 @Lizformee]

The duality of being devoured and emotionally protected by the same person is the best.

[siren @softlysebs_]

ironic, really xx

[siren @softlysebs_]

accidentally taking a double dose of ADHD meds cos you can’t remember whether or not you took it already <<<

[🏹 @meaghanonmymind]

Love a dark skin man with a beautiful smile so bad.

[siren @softlysebs_]

baikoko, mapouka, whatever you call it where you’re from at a celebration is being questioned and looked at through a Western lens. ngai. shame on you. cheza roho!

[siren @softlysebs_]

i feel like this is actually very appropriate for the occasion. the culture has been sexualised to no return

[siren @softlysebs_]

low stance isolated hip dancing at community gatherings is traditional, and has been reduced to degradation. our ancestors weep.

[siren @softlysebs_]

i feel like this is actually very appropriate for the occasion. the culture has been sexualised to no return

[Reeves @KykyJust]

She forgot she was from an African home
Mommy had to caution her 😭😂

[siren @softlysebs_]

it’s incumbent on you to have a pair of reference jeans to keep track of your weight. they’ll tell you more about your body than just numbers on the scale.

[K.P. @1kPrime]

I don’t even want friends that have 6 kids.

[julia @juumelo_]

theres 60g of protein in calling me princess btw

[Tokyo ♟️ @bhynablacc]

very much a “thank you daddy” type of woman… I love being taken care of w.o ever asking

spoil me, I’ll always be grateful .

[COCO @TWOTIMESABITCH]

i really wish i could do casual but it's either soul burning intensity or i feel basically nothing for you

[abiola @abxola]

Life changes when you limit your social media use. We don’t need to digest this much random info at once.