Arushi

Life; a multiplayer game.
Medical student.

[Tanmanjeet Singh Dhesi MP @TanDhesi]

Many were horrified to see water cannon, tear gas and brute force being used against farmers peacefully protesting in India about #FarmersBill2020.

Everyone has the fundamental right to protest peacefully.

But it might help if our PM actually knew what he was talking about!

[Nikhil Taneja @tanejamainhoon]

Social media has uplifted many voices and brought much injustice to light, and at the same time, has also brought with it incredibly angry and hateful comments on every such post.

I feel some of this is to do with how we have made being wrong almost an offence online.
#Thread

[Arushi @somerandomone]

It is not a bloody competition. #Sexism is sexism be it #boyslockerroom or #girlslockeroom demeaning the other sex.
BOTH sexes need to take responsibility, have morality and be accountable for their words/actions. Stop the #blamegame.

[Arushi @somerandomone]

The feature of superior respect for a father as seen in many families, or the country in general, in the smallest things such as official government form which ask for "father's name", not parents name. Even under looked things have a role to play in the shaping of young minds.

[Arushi @somerandomone]

These influences creates this sense of entitlement in the subconscious of these teenagers/men/boys.

[Nikhil Taneja @tanejamainhoon]

It starts with parenting and the way boys and girls are differentiated, sometimes within their own homes. There is always an onus on girls to behave, dress, act, and be 'achche ghar ki ladkiyan'. But boys can get away with anything, because 'ladke hain, yahi toh umar hai unki'.

[Nikhil Taneja @tanejamainhoon]

If you are a boy reading this, don't respond to this incident or any thread/post by saying #notallmen (everyone knows), and don't slide into DMs of women to say you are an ally (this isn't about you). Just listen, acknowledge and understand what young women are feeling and why.

[Nikhil Taneja @tanejamainhoon]

So while we hold these boys accountable for their despicable behaviour, we need to start having larger societal conversations about changing cultural norms, so under-18 boys have more to aspire to than the low bar of being 'just boys', set by patriarchy and accepted by us.

[Nikhil Taneja @tanejamainhoon]

Meme culture has normalised 'send nudes' and 'dick pics' as jokes, and trolls have managed to turn 'feminism' into a cuss word that boys think of as 'men hating'. Male celebrities espouse gender equality in PSAs but on screen and off it, have been found wanting (remember #MeToo)

[Nikhil Taneja @tanejamainhoon]

In our education system too, there are hardly any conversations about gender sensitivity. In fact, in many schools and colleges, boys and girls are supposed to not talk at all. The different genders have always been asked to maintain social distance, that ends up repressing them.

[Nikhil Taneja @tanejamainhoon]

In most homes, girls are taught about how to keep themselves safe, and what to do in uncomfortable situations, but in few homes, are boys taught about why girls feel unsafe and how to make sure girls don't feel uncomfortable. The onus of safety is always placed on the girls.

[Arushi @somerandomone]

@Shubhrastha No you didn't quote, and hence the question mark. But it did imply the roles of only women and that could leave someone with the impression that only they must be responsible. Which is why I urge again. We are equally responsible let people think unequal!

[Arushi @somerandomone]

@TheAmitLakhani Objectification of Male body parts is as wrong as that of females.
But children are getting "spoilt" because of the lack of Sex Education from legible sources and not because of penis-cakes! There is no one on teaching consent, morality or respect of either sex.

#boyslockeroom

[Arushi @somerandomone]

@dixit_satya
yeah, but not for the whole day na.

[Arushi @somerandomone]

@dixit_satya
umm,
wed?
sunday?
anyday.

[Arushi @somerandomone]

@dixit_satya
Idk,
random.

[Arushi @somerandomone]

@dixit_satya
Bored.
Ghar aja?