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This today, that tomorrow

[Barakat💗 @yetundebirisowo]

My mission is to make sure every African book lover reads So Long a Letter by Mariama Bâ.

[kaodirioranma @somokoye]

🤣🤣🤣

[Osaretin Victor Asemota @asemota]

I give up on this @lifewithamara babe 😭😭😭

[kaodirioranma @somokoye]

@Only1jbdr Hi I’m trying to send you a dm please

[kaodirioranma @somokoye]

@IamToyinRoberts @shebeamsRN @QueenEfexii Has to be voodoo for a CHEW to successfully convince a nurse that he’s a doctor

[le.hl @0xleegenz]

Walking alone through a foreign city at night and realizing how far you’ve come has to be a top 3 peak moment of all time

[Osadumebi @osadumebi]

🎧 New Episode Alert 🎧

Faith (Part 2) by @somokoye

Part 2 shows that perhaps survival can mean "becoming" the miracle you’ve been waiting for.

#storiesare #shortstories #nigerianwriters #nigerianauthors

[Osadumebi @osadumebi]

🎧 Episode 206 🎧

Faith (Part 1) by @somokoye

Stories are...hitting rock bottom.

Subscribe and listen on Apple, Spotify, YouTube, Amazon and several other podcast streaming platforms.

#NigerianWriters #NigerianAuthors #NigerianNarrators

[Osadumebi @osadumebi]

🎧 New Episode Alert 🎧

Faith (Part 1) by @somokoye

Part 1 shows grief, resilience, and the quiet strength of a widow trying to survive.

#storiesare #shortstories #nigerianwriters #nigerianauthors

[Ish Sankara @100kara305]

This is what a black person sounds like when they’re well educated well informed and not ignorant.

[kaodirioranma @somokoye]

Haven’t heard Spirogyra in a a while, used to know how to do a good spirogyra drawing

[Bimbola Royale @bimbolaroyale]

Filth. 14 years later, I'm yet to see a home as filthy as that.

I was living very far away from work, and I was leaving home at 5 am and returning at 11 pm every day. This woman was kind enough to offer her home to me, and I jumped at it because it was going to make my commute to work easier.

On getting there, the first thing that jumped at me was the stench of urine on their couch. It was so strong that I almost threw up. I could see that the sofa colour was originally wine, but it had turned brown.

I was managing just fine until I went into the kitchen to wash my lunch bowl. I met a stack of dirty and smelly dishes. There was a soaked pot of amala that must have been there for several days. I quietly kept my bowl back in my laptop bag.

As though that was not enough, the room I was given had big flying cockroaches. Prior to that night, I had never seen a cockroack fly. Rats were jumping on the bed . I couldn't sleep all night as I kept shooing them away.

At 4 am, I made my way to shower, and I saw the most insanely dirty bathroom in my life. White tiles turned black, spirogyra, and mold on the wall and slippery floor.

I ran out. Dressed up without bathing, carried my bags, and left for work. I got to Oworonshoki bus stop at 4:30am and my office at Adeola Odeku at 5:15am, earlier than I had ever been since I joined the company. The security officer even asked me if I was given a quit notice by my landlord.

A few minutes to closing time, she asked me when I was coming back.

I'm not coming back in Jesus name oh😂😂😂

[Stella @ubiquitousnewt]

Marriage is less appealing now because the material benefits it once offered women have largely collapsed. 100 years ago it was the dominant route to financial stability, social standing, protection and adult recognition. Today a woman can earn her own income, live independently and access most of the benefits that once required marriage. Her rising status came from economic and technological changes that aligned with female strengths, along with contraception, education and legal reforms. With those changes, marriage no longer looks like a significant upgrade. It looks like a risk with fewer guaranteed returns.

It has always been an absurdity to frame marriage as a happiness project. Historically, marriage was a practical institution for pair bonding, lineage, inheritance and the stable raising of children who are enormously costly emotionally and materially, and take a long time to become independent. Cultures enforced marriage through pressure, shame and obligation because that was how you secured cooperation between the sexes. Divine will was simply a justification for adaptive behaviour. Happiness inside marriage was a bonus; it was not the structural purpose.

Feelings of love themselves are ancient, but the expectation that marriage should be founded on those feelings is comparatively modern; the rule that love must be the basis for choosing a spouse. That expectation only gains real cultural traction in Western Europe from the 17th and 18th centuries onward. Once industrialisation began lifting populations out of constant survival pressure, humans could focus beyond subsistence and onto the broader palette of emotional human experience. By the 19th C the idea of a “love marriage” spread more widely, and only in the mid 20th c does it become the default assumption that marriage ought to be romantic. Assortative mating remained robust throughout; people fell in love largely within the boundaries set by class, status and compatibility. What changed was the cultural script, not the underlying biology.

Marriage was never designed for happiness; it was designed for stability. Only once its material function weakened did people begin to expect it to deliver emotional fulfilment instead.

And so here we are.

Women’s romantic feelings are evoked when she sees a man with an appropriate level of status. But if most men in her circle are on par with her or below her, then there are far fewer men able to impress her. Why bother? She no longer needs rescuing from poverty. She doesn’t need a husband for survival. If anything, she would like a partner who propels her further up the socioeconomic ladder and an increasing proportion of men can’t do that.

So what happens now?

When the old social norms around marriage weaken, marriage stops being a universal expectation and becomes a personality filter. The people least capable of stability, cooperation or long term planning simply do not marry at all and tend to have children with multiple partners. Those with slightly better traits may marry, but may not sustain it for life as intended.

In the end, marriage is not disappearing, it is becoming concentrated amongst the successful. It becomes almost like an aristocratic custom; rare, elite, stable, high-investment and deeply stratified. A marker of competence rather than a rite of passage. For everyone else the pattern is fluid relationships, low stability, weak pair-bonding and falling fertility. Marriage survives, but only among the successful.

I can’t say I would mourn the loss of marriage. If modernity is a selection event, then it simply reveals who can form and maintain long-term bonds under conditions of freedom. When the economic compulsion is removed, what remains are underlying dispositions: stability, foresight, self-control, reciprocity, emotional regulation. Those traits cluster unevenly.

Long live the genetically blessed.

In the end, marriage will not be saved by sentiment. It will be saved by selection.

[kaodirioranma @somokoye]

Hia .. is this a skit or

[𝐀𝐬𝐚𝐤𝐲𝐆𝐑𝐍 @AsakyGRN]

People are dragging the DJ on Instagram for his questionable choice of music during Ciara's runway walk at Lagos Fashion Week. They say the song completely ruined the vibe.

[kaodirioranma @somokoye]

Monthly most likely.. it’s the only thing that makes sense

[Ewgi @Ssaasquatch]

Genuinely asking…did they call him a liar because £60k is an unrealistically high salary, or because it sounds too small? I’m honestly confused.

[kaodirioranma @somokoye]

Kpom kwem

[Mageba @Mageba_____]

To people who wear glasses

[Jerry Eze @RealJerryEze]

📌📌📌📌📌

[kaodirioranma @somokoye]

Stopping distance

[kaodirioranma @somokoye]

@comicyehu That’s Orson , better be respectful

[streamsofjoyinternational @streamsofjoyHQ]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO OUR PAPA… PASTOR (DR.) JERRY UCHECHUKWU EZE 😭🙏🏻👏🏼🎉🎊❤️🙏🏻

Today, we celebrate a Father, Shepherd, and Trailblazer sent by God to our generation whose life is our biggest testimony that WHAT GOD CANNOT DO DOES NOT EXIST! 🙌🔥

Through your sacrifice, fervent prayers, and unwavering obedience, destinies have been revived, lives transformed, nations shaken, and the entire world reminded that JESUS IS STILL DOING WONDERS!

Papa, we honor your YES to God, your relentless pursuit of His presence, and your love for people. Thank you for leading us deeper into God, raising a generation of firebrands, and showing us that with God, no limit is final.

May this new year overflow with greater grace, strength, joy, and divine encounters. May the Lord who called you continually lift you higher and higher.

We love, celebrate, and honor you Sir!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY PAPA @RealJerryEze 🎊🎉❤️🙏🏻👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

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