If I’m having a tough conversation with you, it’s because I want you in my life and want you to tighten up so I can keep you in it. I’m not attacking you.
If you lack emotional intelligence we will never work out fr. I’m not teaching you how to apologize, how to take accountability, or how to treat me with respect. These are basic qualities you should already possess before entering any type of relationship.
A therapist on IG said “You don’t chase them bc you love them. You chase them bc deep down, you’re still trying to prove to yourself that you’re worth staying for.”It’s not just about them. It’s about the part of you that still believes love has to be earned. Here’s why;
No one teaches you how to admit you might be addicted to the hope of someone. Nor how to stop being loyal to someone who isn’t emotionally equipped to receive what you’re offering. Some part of you knows that. Let me explain….
Being in a relationship isn’t just about compatibility. It’s about capacity. Your capacity to stay open when you’d rather shut down. To say the hard thing without making it cruel. To admit, “I was wrong,” instead of defending your pride. Let me explain…