1- Found and started talking to a therapist. Every week. Never miss a session. Make it a priority. Talk to a professional. Somebody who doesn’t know you or have a predisposed opinion. Be brutally honest with them.
2- lived in the gym. Exercise burns stress, helps you look and feel better, and builds your confidence
3- started reading and studying Stoicism. Start with Marcus Aurelius and go from there. Reading a page out of The Daily Stoic also a great way. You’ll be surprised how much your view on life will change
4- learned a new skill. Cooking. An instrument. A new language. They say to “never stop learning” for a reason. A good reason
5- volunteer. Join an organization. For me it was mentoring through Big Brothers. Nothing in the world fulfills you or makes you feel better than helping others
6- connect or reconnect with friends and family. This is what they’re here for. Lean on the people who love you. They won’t feel burdened like you might think they will. Because they know you’d do the same for them.
7- get out of the house, and get out of your head. STAY BUSY. STAY PRODUCTIVE. Stay doing something.
8- do NOT look for relief in vices- drinking, drugs, casual sex, gambling. It might feel great in the moment but it’s temporary relief. And you’ll feel much worse the next day and have more regret. Break your other bad habits while you’re at it
9- find God. The creator. The center of the universe. Whoever or whatever it is for you, find it and learn to connect and speak to it.
10- practice gratitude. It is so incredibly easy to feel sorry for ourselves and lose sight of all the things we have to be thankful for. Making it a point to remind ourselves every day of the things we are grateful for will literally rewire and reprogram your brain. (Daily affirmation apps and journaling are great for this)
11- give yourself some grace. Remember that we are all human beings and that we fuck up. Making mistakes is part of the life experience. The important thing is learning from them and working to improve from them, with the aim to be the best possible version of ourself
@MonicaMAlmaguer I agree! Good to keep communication transparent and you understand what mutual needs are. We (usually men) then need to plan that next date - but now the desire to do so!
In a normal world, this is who the Mayor of New York City would have hosted for dinner at his home, instead of a man who sympathizes with the folks throwing the bomb.
90% of people will miss this tonight because they’re looking at their phones. DON’T BE ONE OF THEM. ☄️
The planets are literally aligning for us on this February 28th. A rare 6-planet alignment is happening right now, and it’s the perfect time to set an intention, make a wish, or just sit back and marvel at how tiny we really are.
The universe is putting on a free show—don’t forget to look up. 🔭
China knows exactly what this does. Their domestic version of TikTok caps kids under 14 at 40 minutes a day, locks access between 6am and 10pm, and swaps the entire feed to educational content. Science, history, museums.
The version they export to everyone else? Unlimited, unrestricted, pure dopamine on demand.
When kids in the US and China were asked what they wanted to be when they grew up, the number one answer in America was influencer. In China it was astronaut.
Macron calls this a cognitive war. Export what dulls young minds and keep what makes them intelligent for your own population.
This is the most effective weapon ever deployed against a generation’s ability to think.