The problem gentlemen is you think "rapist" means scary man in a hoodie lurking in an alleyway at 3am. Of course you'd block that guy.
But it's the boyfriend you really loved who was angry that you hadn't wanted sex for two days and pinned you for the bed and then felt really bad about it.
It's the really sweet guy backstage who you loved working with for the whole production who knew you only wanted to be friends and then got you drunk at the after party and raped you in a dressing room.
It's the husband who whined and pleaded for sex long after you've said no for hours and refused to take no for an answer until you gave in every night for four years until you realised what it was.
It's the childhood friend who knows your parents and is your brother's best mate who suddenly attacked you when you were 17 and then told you he'd be thrown out of Oxford if you said anything.
It's the kind colleague who offered to drive you home from that conference when there was a train strike and then forced his hands into your pants in a lay-by and then threatened to leave you there at 3am if you didn't stop being a cockteasing bitch.
We're not dumb. We see the constant attempts to make anything short of stranger with a knife made up, regret, our fault really, a matter of the woman not being clear.
We know why you keep trying to make this 'not rape'. Because if coercion, marital rape, pressure, manipulation and exploitation count, then the comforting fantasy that rape is only ever a stranger with a knife falls apart.
@Mother_Cathy Its alright. I dropped out of university to go to beauty school and im starting a new antidepressant soon so hopefully things will start looking up. How have you been?
@nevyvx Hey im just seeing this now but thank you for checking in on me. Im safe just not doing well and havent had much motivation to be on twitter. I appreciate you checking in
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I cant believe I just relapsed literally wtf im 20 years old Im too old for this shit now and its my first styro I feel so stupid. I was convinced my friends hated me but they just care about me and were trying to stop me from doing some stupid shit I hate myself
Many women will come to this conclusion. This is exactly why the patriarchy spiritually, physically and mentally indoctrinates entire societies to dehumanize women into solely mothers and wives - because if we dare view ourselves as full human beings deserving of a full life. We'll opt out of traditional patriarchal societies.