When you start making good money, save it. Especially in the beginning. Save as much as you can. You'll desire things. New car, new watch, designer clothes to show the world you made it. And dumb philosophies will try to justify it. YOLO, life is short. Don't pay attention. Don't change anything. Save for a few years. And one day you'll notice, the urgency is gone. The anxiety... gone. You go to a restaurant, and you stop looking at the right side of the menu. You plan a holiday and you don't wait 3 weeks for cheap flights. Someone made you an offer that doesn't feel right, and you say no without thinking twice. That's what happens when you overcome instant gratification. It will give you peace to move at your own pace. A little patience, that's all you need. And it will give you something that no material object can ever match: a calm nervous system.
I don't care how you were raised. At some point, you have to take responsibility for who you choose to be. Trauma may explain behavior, but it will never excuse it.
Heal. Unlearn. Do better.
calling your spouse's parents "mummy papa" is so icky to me like my parents gave birth to me, raised me, dealt with my 20 crises and now you, literal strangers, want that title just because tum meri setting ke ma baap ho? HELL NA