I don’t want a soft life because I’m lazy. I want a soft life because I’ve spent most of my life in survival mode. my nervous system has been in fight or flight since childhood and now I’m choosing peace and stability.
The older I get, the more I see why it’s important to only keep people around who have the same morals, manners, and sense of consideration as you. It’s not being picky, it’s protecting your peace. When you reach a certain stage in life, chaos and disrespect just aren’t entertaining anymore. You start craving calm, mutual respect, and people who move with the same kind of heart as you do.
The other day I was watching a space documentary (can’t remember which one), and it said:
“When you’re lying on the grass on a clear night, looking at the sky, you may get a strange feeling… that you’re not actually looking up. You’re looking down. Beneath you is an endless abyss of empty space, and the only thing keeping you from falling into it is gravity holding you to the Earth.”
I’m telling you… I HAVE NOT BEEN ABLE TO STOP THINKING ABOUT IT.
Had you ever heard that before?
The key to living a comfortable life is confrontation and chaos actually. You have to say no. You have to tell people to fuck off. You have to be mean in necessary situations. A life of peace isn't built off of being a yes man and taking a passive approach to everything
men are EXTREMELY selfish and will always, always put themselves and their feelings FIRST. Which is why women should always do the same. You’ll never regret it.
let go of self-negation. the self cannot survive if you constantly suppress or give up your joy, your comfort, your needs, your opinions, or your well being for others. it just can’t. at some point, you have to step back and say “i don’t have to be unhappy” and “i can have peace”
You can't manipulate someone with high pattern recognition. They see the script before you even realize you're performing it. They notice the timing, the contradictions, the selective kindness, the convenient excuses, and the subtle shifts in behavior that most people overlook.
My mom has this issue where she don’t understand why I don’t do a damn thing for people I don’t like and I have no issue with reminding her why the hell I don’t either.