One of the most powerful things you can do for somebody is forgive them.
And I’ve experienced both ends of the spectrum.
I remember with my mentor, I fucked up, and was expecting them to be super mad/upset/disappointed… I was bracing for impact, anticipating the severity of the confrontation, expecting to be chewed out
But instead,
All I got was a, “Yeah, do better moving forward. No hard feelings.”
And I remember being completely taken aback by it. My butthole was clenched, I had a whole apology prepared, and while I was sincerely sorry… no elaborate explanation was necessary.
Likewise, with mentees of my own, I’ve had the exact same situation manifest, only with roles reversed.
And in giving the same patience and forgiveness that was previously extended unto me, this mentee expressed the exact same feeling as I had! One of, “Wait. That’s it? You forgive me?”
“Yeah, everyone makes mistakes.
Anyone pretending they don’t is full of it.
Expecting people to be perfect is foolish.
Just do better next time :)”
Namaste 🙏🏽
Fast Food is a part of American culture. But that doesn’t mean it has to be unhealthy, and that we can’t make better choices. Did you know that McDonald’s used to use beef tallow to make their fries from 1940 until phasing it out in favor of seed oils in 1990? This switch was made because saturated animal fats were thought to be unhealthy, but we have since discovered that seed oils are one of the driving causes of the obesity epidemic. Interestingly enough, this began to drastically rise around the same time fast food restaurants switched from beef tallow to seed oils in their fryers.
People who enjoy a burger with fries on a night out aren’t to blame, and Americans should have every right to eat out at a restaurant without being unknowingly poisoned by heavily subsidized seed oils. It’s time to Make Frying Oil Tallow Again 🇺🇸🍔
America is one big casino, not a country. Wealth changes hands 24/7. Every lord is an ex-junkie in withdrawal. All houses are made of glass. Every empire is built on sand. Every emperor is naked. The capital isnt even D.C. its Vegas.
10 concepts that explain the modern world
1. Parkinson’s Law: Companies become bigger and worse over time. Clerks manufacture work for each other as overall capacity dips. When British Navy ships went down from 68 to 20, officials increased by 78%.
2. Chesterton Fence: If you don’t know what an old custom does, don’t touch it. It may be holding back problems you’re completely unaware of. You’ve not seen the wolves yet because of the very fence you’re about to demolish.
3. The Medici Effect: Sculptors, painters, and architects converged in Florence as the Medicis were funding the artists. Their proximity led to a fertile dialogue which, in turn, led to the Renaissance. The internet will amplify this cross-pollination of ideas.
4. The Centipede's Dilemma: Ask a centipede which one of its hundred legs moves the fastest and it forgets how to move. Reflecting on what we normally do without thought ironically worsens performance. A culture of endless self-reflection, therapy, and navel gazing is eroding important life skills.
5. Tyranny of small decisions: Individuals make small decisions to maximize convenience but this leads to massive social failure. We nod along to contagious ideas like “gender is fluid” because resisting them is too much work - till kids start getting transgender surgery. The slippery slope is not a fallacy but a fundamental reality.
6. The Zebra Effect explains why people don’t want to stand out. Zebras are hard to individually study as it's nearly impossible to track one of them for long (lost in the striped chaos). So scientists once put a big red dot on one zebra so he could be tracked & studied. Lions zeroed in on him and hunted him with ease. Getting lost among others is a survival mechanism. Hence the human desire to conform.
7. Why the ruler can’t rule: The executive head can’t implement his ideas on ground because the bureaucrats are closer to it, and have an agenda of their own. The Tzar of Russia had to deal with the Deep State too. Nicholas II: “I never ruled Russia. 10,000 clerks ruled Russia.”
8. Gall's law: A complex system that works is invariably found to have evolved from a simple system that worked. Only fools and modern technocrats try to create complex systems from scratch.
9. Minimal Self Hypothesis: Narcissism is a “strategic retreat” into the safety of one’s own self. When the future looks random, inexplicable, and informationally overwhelming, people enter survival mode. The self becomes “minimal” to reduce its surface area to pain. People today are giving up on commitment of all sorts to conserve energy for vague and upcoming disasters.
10. Tetris Syndrome: The world will eventually start looking like Tetris blocks if you play the game too much. What we do most often becomes the metaphor through which we look at the world. Takeaway: Most people today are addicted to their 2D phones - and this will hurt the general aptitude for dealing with the 3D world.
“It’s not the smartest or strongest organism that survives. It’s the one most adaptable to change.” — Darwin
Big fucking lesson in there.
Colossal.
That’s everything right there. Adapt or die.