Stuart Tan MSc., MBA

31+ Years in Leadership Consultancy. NLP & Modeling Expert, Psychologist, Psychotherapist and Counselor. National Serviceman 25+ years in Military Service.

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@heystevetan 1st "comment" on X for more than a decade. 😆😅

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@heystevetan @heystevetan this is the 1st post on X for more than a decade. I've known you since before you were famous. As someone who values harmony, peacekeeping; you try to stay aligned to your virtues, I know makes it hard for you to do this. Wish you a smooth resolution to this fracas.

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This can create confusion and self-doubt in the victim, making it difficult for them to assert their own reality.

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In psychological terms, projection is a defense mechanism where an individual attributes their own unacceptable thoughts, feelings, or behaviors onto someone else. In the case of a narcissist, they may project their guilt or wrongdoing onto you.

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Making it seem as if you are responsible for their actions. This tactic can also be part of a broader pattern of blame-shifting, where the narcissist refuses to take responsibility for their actions and instead places the blame on others.

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Read my latest: “Purveyors of Procrastination” https://t.co/wVHq7xlpCX

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#8 - Countdown from three to one while focusing on the first step you have to take, and do it once you finish your countdown.
I give myself an ultimatum, like warning someone you will shoot on a count of 3. It forces my mind to become totally focused on what happens after 3.

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I'm aware it's only the second month of the new year. But are you still in stasis? Procrastination is a killer of dreams - it's time to implement.

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#7 - Talk yourself through, repetitively if you need, the next steps you have to do.
Instruct yourself! When those instructions are clearly broken down, talking to yourself to do it really is like being your own best advisor, even if it looks like you're nuts.

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It is a great joy to serve and walk through tough moments. Bonds forged in suffering cannot be unforged, knowing that there is no weak link other than an unwilling one.

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Leadership is about forming 3 Key Narratives in your mind.
#1 - A landmark story of overcoming adversity and how it changed you.
#2 - A story about excellence - especially where challenges outmatched competencies.
#3 - A story about how trust is strengthened where there was none.

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Trust is therefore the consistent application of behavior. I am thankful people trust me to lead this team. I am also always gently reminded that others also have my back.