If you want to recover faster from setbacks then skip the "why me" phase entirely and go straight to "what now." Victim mindset isn't just a feeling, it's also a sentence structure.
Change the sentence and you change the trajectory.
Self-hypnosis is easily one of the quickest ways to change your life, with many people seeing real results in just two to three weeks.
To actually do it on yourself, lie down or sit somewhere quiet, close your eyes, breathe slow with longer exhales than inhales (like 4 in, 6 to 8 out), and slowly relax your body part by part from your feet to your head (using progressive muscle relaxation: briefly tense then completely release each muscle group from your toes up to your face as you exhale), then count down from 10 to 1 in your head, telling yourself with each number that you're going twice as deep, and once you feel heavy and relaxed, that's when you feed in the suggestion.
The rules are simple: Say it in the present tense ("I am confident" not "I will be confident"), keep it positive ("I am financially secure" instead of "I am not broke," because the subconscious skips the "not" and focuses entirely on the mental picture of the problem, which is why "don't think of a pink elephant" makes you think of a pink elephant), make it vivid and emotional, see it as already happening, feel what you'd feel if it were already true, then repeat it, then count yourself back up from 1 to 5 feeling more awake and energized.
The best times to do it are the second you wake up and the moment before you fall asleep because your brain is already halfway in that state naturally, which is exactly the window Émile Coué used in 1920s France with one phrase his patients repeated twenty times morning and night, "every day, in every way, I am getting better and better," and he had clinics full of people healing chronic conditions with it.
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manifesting tip 101:
using sleeping as placebo
lets say you want to get clear skin. just affirm that your skin gets clear every night you go to sleep. from now on this is your truth.
or you wanna lose fat. affirm you lose 1 kg every day just by sleeping
this is one of the highest forms of magic available btw. the equivalent of a daily spell. some call it prayer, some call it manifestation, some call it quantum leaping, but the infinite driving force behind it is the same. and it always delivers.
This may seem like "woo woo" nonsense but if you want to alter the world around you, then you need to do this:
Everyday for the past 3 month I've written in cursive the story of my future self.
I write over and over that I already have the life I want want. More clients, more income, more success.
And guess what?
Everything I write freaking happens.
Do with this information what you want, but there is something powerful behind scripting your own future.
when hayao miyazaki said that true love was two people inspiring each other to live...recognizing just how hard living is, putting one foot in front of the other every day, how easy it is to lose our passion for it...... that's the real shit
Allah is Most Expansive, He expands the simplest turn towards Him and the most beloved deeds to Him are those that are consistent, even if they are small
If I got laid off tomorrow & had to replace my salary asap, here’s exactly what I’d do:
1. Go to Instagram and start a fresh account. Use a spare email. No one has to know.
Tahajjud changed nothing for me for two years. Same tears. Same requests. Same sunrise with nothing shifting.
Then I read something I didn’t expect - it wasn’t about praying longer or crying harder.
I wrote down exactly who I want to be and what I want my life to look like. then I asked what does he do. how does he start his day. what does he eat. when does he sleep. how does he handle the hard conversations. what does his work look like. I wrote all of it down. then I just started doing it. you don't have to feel like him first. you act like him until you are him.
This is free advice from an expensive psychologist. If you’re an anxious person, do everything for fun. Go to a job interview for fun. Submit documents for fun. Start a blog for fun. Anxiety feeds on importance. Don’t make everything a matter of life and death.
I used to feel conversationally inadequate at pubs, barbershops, airport lounges. My words falling haltingly from my mouth, wrong tone wrong time, as a boomer gracefully rights the discoursal ship.
Now I talk to zoomer service workers and feel like James Bond in comparison. dire