I don't understand Melayu's concept of "tak boleh doakan kafir" because that way you just don't treat human as human. Allah didn't teach us to be like that? Boleh ja doakan kafir.
Did you know Indonesia and Malaysia became majority Muslim not through war, but through trade, scholars, and character?
Meanwhile, the USA was founded through the violent takeover of Indigenous land, war, and broken treaties.
Yet Islam is labeled violent?
How does that work?