@Gkeengl241101@roseswenz Evet ya bi sal kızı okulunu okusun gençliğini yaşasın bu ne baskı. Hep çok kibirliydi bence fark ettiği ilk hatasında Ferihaya en ağır cezayı verme moduna geçti hemen. "İyi anneliği" Ferihayı melek sanarkendi sadece. Kusurlarını gördükçe gerçek yüzünü çıkardı.
@ssultanpapagani@shechinaal Evet bir de Ahmet'in ne kadar dedikoducu olduğu belli, Neyyir ise Hayriye'nin "sırdaşı" ama Ahmet sürekli Tekinler dedikodusu yapıyordu Neyyirle, Neyyir önce bir naz yapıp başlıyordu dedikoduya dünden hevesli. Bence hiç iyi komşu değildi, meraklının teki kızı gibi sinsi.
It took me almost 28 years to realise that confidence actually comes from “Good” past experiences and nothing else, it can’t be faked for long neither you can be delusional about it for long. A person who is allowed to self express at his home, allowed to grow and welcomed
@J20s1@PeterGazdik@anammostarac Why? 80 is not intellectually disabled, they are probably aware of their intelligence more than most people because they might struggle with specific things.
@Lira_Orpheus@Sst25974@LambdaGear@Dhylln Thats totally irrelevant. Approaching people is nothing like selling them sth. Sitting w a person is the start of an interaction. Just bc they started it they are not obligated to carry the whole thing. Once u pass childhood no one will give u 100% attention? thats not realistic
@tako_fren@Sst25974@LambdaGear@Dhylln "Invading their space", how? By providing them some form of connection and giving them the oppurtunity to meet new ppl? Since they didnt say 'no I'm good on my own, you can use the empty bench over there' they accepted the said 'invasion'
@tako_fren@Sst25974@LambdaGear@Dhylln I think she wasn't trying to help op make friends. That'd be such a weird task for a peer. She probably thought op could use some company and op accepted by not saying no. She created the space for op to include themselves but stuff didnt go as op expected no one's at fault here
@SrCoco17@Sst25974@LambdaGear@Dhylln Maybe itd be better for op if her group joined later on but its still a good oppurtunity imo its ok to stay quiet during the first encounter w a group things can get better the second/third time. This isnt rude or ignoring, its basic inclusion not resulting in anything meaningful
@shoebeak_@Sst25974@LambdaGear@Dhylln How? Op did not say "no I'm good on my own" when ppl aproached them, instead they let the group sit w them. If op's choice was to not join the convo then its all good they dont have anything to complain about but here they are.
@Sst25974@LambdaGear@Dhylln Just bc someone approached first doesn't mean that they have to carry the convo/center it around the approached person. Its ones own reponsibility to be able to join convos when ppl show interest (they did by sitting w him). This is his failure (it ok tho') not group's rudeness.
@Dhylln That's quite nice actually. I had only one person come up to me when I was alone and they said "why dont you go sit with your friends you look weird alone", I didnt have any friends and apparently even the person who was bothered by seeing me alone didnt want to hang out w me.
@Sst25974@LambdaGear@Dhylln People cannot treat you like you're their child who needs constant attention. The group coming to sit with them is including as including goes in hs. It's his/her job to join the convo, if they failed at that it is what it is. The group didn't do anything wrong here.
@cluckingchooky@krusty_es@TelemachusCEO No need, there are plenty of extroverted people out there and they love it when I approach them. Really fun, the talks we have. If you're bothered by human interaction why are you interacting with people here? or go out in public at all?
@cluckingchooky@krusty_es@TelemachusCEO Exactly! You won't stop engaging with me, I see you are clearly looking for interaction and I am giving it to you since I am an extrovert myself just like you, plus I'm kind.
@cluckingchooky@krusty_es@TelemachusCEO Ignoring someone is being an asshole, if you don't want to talk to them you should tell them. If you can't that's because you worry to much about complying to social rules, must be tiring. You should work on your confidence if you can't reject people properly.