Unexpected Widow

Wife and mum of teenage boys, suddenly and unexpectedly widowed.
Not sure where to put my feelings so thought I'd try
this as an outlet 💔
I run a bit.

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And how life changed. In that moment and the hours after, to never be the same again. Gone suddenly before I got there. I never got to say goodbye. Neither did our boys. I bloody miss him. They do too. It’s shit.

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@PeteTaxMiller I hope you are doing okay too Pete

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Apologies for not posting much recently, life, as we know, moves forward. This is an update on my progress, if this appears self-indulgent again, apologies, the intention is that for anyone reading my earlier posts sees that there’s life ‘after’ grief. So…

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But, because I loved so deeply, and I was loved the same, my heart was open to love again

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Grief hits on a daily and most random basis, I’ve learned to live with it. I miss him all the time.

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I’m in year 2 of studying for BSc, the eldest boy is studying for his BEng, the youngest boy is qualifying in engineering.

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@LynviaHarding Exactly this! Sending love and positivity x

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Update! Life for me and our boys is good, we are good We’re 2 years into this grief malarkey where apparently it gets better?
I went through his work apparel today to decide what to bin and what to keep and I’m destroyed.
A life and a career done. 😔

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@DadWidowed I feel like this too, hence why I’ve been quiet on here. My twitter space was about dealing with my grief and, whilst I am still a widow living with grief, it doesn’t define me either. We move forwards with love and positivity 😊

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@RachelBrougham I’m 2 years into this ‘new life’. Like you, I remember everything about that morning, who was on the radio, what I was writing at work, even the blue light journey to the hospital (too late). I don’t know how I’d explain what’s happened since; life is good but not the same 🫂

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@CherryMorrello I am genuinely sorry to read this sad news. I appreciated reading Cherry’s positive updates and I will continue to smile at a dog as she always advised 🫂

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@lizziep73 I feel this. Which is why I won’t send cards from me/us individually…..I write ‘love from’ and The ourfamilyname …..For me, it works better than trying to pretend that life is still normal x

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Crikey…I intended to update with #positivityingrief but made the mistake of scrolling ..wtf is wrong with people? “If tha can’t say owt nice, then seh nowt” 🤷‍♀️

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@widow_waiting @CherryMorrello So sorry to read this news. Thanks to Cherry, I always smile at a dog x

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I realise I posted about this…but its bothered me because it hurt. It cannot be excused, I’ve been married to her brother for over 20 years!

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Hi! Ive had a birthday, I had a card addressed to ‘Miss’ and my name and married surname. It was from my SIL, husband’s sister. Assuming it wasn’t a mistake. I’m asking, what do I do?

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@RussellScotland Thank you for taking your time to reply with something negative. I hope you find happiness elsewhere

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Hey! As a widow, what would you do with a birthday card addressed to ‘Miss’ forename and (married) surname from an in-law. I’m not even #AskingForAFriend

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@UnmarriedGrief1 @rachelteale It is. I talk about him in the present, even though he’s not here, it feels like he still is in some way x

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Hi! I’ve been quiet…for good reason I think? My life goes on. Despite suffering the most devastating loss, I am managing to move forwards (not ‘on’-I hate that 😠) The teenagers are great, I’m studying, I’m running, I’m living. Hopefully with #positivity #grief #Grief #running

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@ilkleymax Hi, small steps….if that’s a run then great, if that’s a walk because you can’t run because your grief comes out in tears and snot….it doesn’t matter….we move forwards. Sending positivity x