A healing stage is disgust. Yes, disgust. You will be DISGUSTED by the people whose love you seeked. You will feel embarrassed about the choices you made and the people who had access to you who didn't deserve it. Feel this feeling then let it go.
That will NEVER be you again.
I was asked, 'who is your best friend?' I don't know. I don't use language like that anymore. It doesn't fit. I have friends that hold the keys to different doors of my personality. And some open my heart. Some my laughter. Some my sin. Some my inner child
It's so selfish to enter someone's life, see that they're a loving, cheerful, and good person, and decide to ruin their peace because you haven't dealt with your own issues. Leave people alone if you have no intention of showing up with sincerity.
I'm not toxic. I'm reactive. There's a person somewhere calling me difficult, and they're leaving out the part where they pushed every boundary I set, ignored every signal I gave, and then acted shocked when I finally stopped being gentle about it.
A man's desire to become a father is always paid for by a woman with her body, her health, her career, and her freedom.
But when a woman expects a comfortable life, she is somehow shamed for wanting too much.
Tolerating always turns to resentment. At first, you call it patience, then love. But what it really is, is self-abandonment. Every time you swallow a boundary, excuse a pattern or silence your discomfort, something inside you keeps score. Likes And eventually, the bill comes due.
i think the saddest part about growing up is realizing nobody is coming to save you. The version of you that’s exhausted, scared, and overwhelmed still has to wake up and keep going tomorrow.
normalize giving up on people. No more seeing the best in them, no more excusing their behavior. Accept them as they are and reject them. If they wanted to appreciate you, they would’ve already.
i think stressing over a man is pointless. the choices they make are completely out of your control & their behavior has nothing to do with you. all you can do is pray that God allows the right partner into your life & drag anyone who doesn't care for you properly out.