A robber stole Umar Ibn Khattab's turban in the market and ran. Umar ran after him shouting 'I bear witnesse to Allāh that I have given it to you, so say "I accept it" so that the Hellfire does not touch you!'
You get to choose your wife but your children don't get to choose their mother,
Your future children need you to vet their mother,
To ensure she's not abusive, jahil of the deen, displays beauty for the world etc.
To ensure she's loyal, submissive, housewife and motherly etc.
You are your worst enemy. You waste precious time dreaming of the future instead of engaging in the present. Since nothing seems urgent to you, you're only half involved in what you do.